I have 2 daughters age 3 and 19 months. I have started volunteering at the YWCA family violence prevention office speaking out against abuse and telling my own personal story of being an abuse victim. My nineteen month old has never in her life spent a day away from me and when I called the 3 daycares we have in this town, I was told that she wouldn't be able to be in the same room as my older daughter because they segregate kids based on age. I want her to be in the room with her sister at least the first time or two until she gets used to being left there and it disturbs me that the daycares aren't willing to do that. Any ideas?
2006-12-12 06:05:10 · 10 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
What about an in-home daycare? That way they can still be together and the group of kids won't be as big which to me seems like a better idea (less chance of kids picking up germs, kids get more individual attention, etc.)
2006-12-12 06:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Try and see it through a teacher’s eyes. Imagine 12 children ranging from babies, toddlers, to preschoolers in one room. It would be very chaotic. Think about nap time, story time, diaper or potty time. Plus, the children of the different ages play with different things. A toddler could not have the same thing that a preschooler has. It is just easier to separate the ages.
Is there a way that you can slowly transition into you child? For example, stay with her the first day for about an hour then leave together, let her stay about ½ hour the second day by herself, 45 minutes the third day, and 1 hour the next. By this time she should be used to transitioning.
Ask if your older daughter could visit her sister once or twice a day for the first few days or daily. Maybe the can have a snack together or have story time together.
If you are not satisfied having them separated, I suggest you look into in home daycares. Most in home daycares do take children of many age ranges. You may also look into someone coming to your home such as a nanny or au pair. This way they can stay at home where they are familiar and the transition would be easier.
What a wonderful thing you are doing speaking out! Best of luck to you!
2006-12-12 06:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there are any daycares that will allow that. You could maybe check into home daycares. Or perhaps you could speck with the daycare and see if they would allow your older daughter to go in once in a while during the day so that the little one knows she's there. And trust me once she's been there a few day's she'll have so many friends to play with she won't even know your not there.
Just be prepared kid's are great at manipulating there parents. Both daughters will scream and cry when you drop them off and they will make you feel horrible. My daughter did. Then I found out that as soon as I was out the door the water works stopped. It was all a game to her. Good Luck! :) It's harder on you then them.
2006-12-12 06:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look for an in home child care, I think that is going to be your best bet at them being together. The issue with the large day care facilities is that they have legal restrictions and ratios to follow. The ratios between children and teachers changes with the age of the children and you have to abide by the age of the youngest child in the room. For example, most states have a 6 infant to one teacher ratio, infant being any child under 1 year. The ratio in the 3 year old room is probably around 10 to 1. If they day care puts the 19month old in with the 3 year olds, they may have to put an extra teacher in the room to be legal with the state requirements. Most day care centers can't afford to hire extra staff for that kind of thing, a lot of them have a hard time finding enough staff to meet the state ratios. Good luck.
2006-12-12 08:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by WREAGLE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two types of daycares: First, the center more like a preschool, geared towards learning. The second is an in-home daycare, aimed to be more like your home environment. I personally picked to have my cared for someone who truly cares about them like they are her own. My daycare provider will love on my children while they are sick, just as I would do. The best part is my children were together.
2006-12-12 06:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by BAJC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i became also frightened of leaving my daughter in the care of strangers! till the age of four, she hadn't been left with everybody who she wasn't pertaining to to (i.e.- Grandma or Grandpa). So at the same time as it got here time to placed her into preschool, i became frightened by using all of those thoughts you listen of terrible and hazardous caregivers. My husband and that i toured and interviewed countless preschool/daycare centers before we agreed on one. once you're there, ask your self: Is the ability sparkling? Is it secure? Do the children look satisfied? How are the caregivers interacting with their costs? Ask for references from different father and mom. examine the more desirable ideal agency Bureau for courtroom situations. Ask how lengthy the caregivers were operating there (intense-turnover costs propose unhappy workers being concerned for your newborn, as well as a a lot less consistent surroundings). deliver your daughter alongside on the excursions and word how properly she reacts to the position. ordinarily, have self belief your intestine- if some thing seems incorrect, yet you only won't be able to placed your finger on what, go someplace else. And once you've picked an section, be constructive to locate time for un-presented visits to reveal screen your newborn (and her caretakers). And if a facility would not enable unscheduled visits by using oldsters, go some the position else. reliable success.
2016-10-18 04:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by gaffke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a family daycare that is in someone's home. They can only have like 5 or so kids total and all kids are together. I use family daycare and find it is the best, aside from being home with me. It isn't so cold and your baby is a number-ish, if you know what I mean. Home cooked food, home atmoshpere, all good.
2006-12-12 06:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is there policy they don't do it for reasons that you think.Did you ever think it miight be a little easier on your3 year old to be in a room with children her own age I know you want her to be in the same room as your 19 month old but your daughter needs to get adjusted just as well and it's just as well that they are seperated in the beginning.
2006-12-12 06:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu would have to find a private out of home daycare.
2006-12-12 06:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
higher a nanny ?!
2006-12-12 06:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by BMB 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋