I have been with him for a year and i love him to death. I was pregnant with his child and my parents kicked me out now that I lost my child in August and moved back they don't like fo rus to see each other. What should I do? I love him though!
2006-12-12 06:00:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get your life together. You are really stupid for getting pregnant in the first place. Use protection. It's not that hard.
You are really stupid for getting pregnant while you are still living with your parents. Get a degree, get a decent job, get your own place, and then, start thinking about raising a family. What the hell is the matter with you?!?!?!
Also, where is the guy in this picture? Did he help you out during your time of need? Is he still living with his parents as well? If not, then you need to drop this loser, whether he's the same race or not.
Whether it's OK to be in an inter-racial relationship should be the last thing on your mind right now. Your life is screwed up in general. Get it together and work your way back up to zero because you're in the negative right now.
2006-12-12 08:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of this will depend on how old you are, honey. I am 49, white, and married to a beautiful, strong, hard-working black man, and we have a 15 year old bi-racial daughter who is smart, lovely and the light of my life. I personally couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me or my choices... but I am 49! I have my own home, my own car, my own LIFE. If you are in the position that you have to be at home, then while you might not AGREE with your parents opinions, you may have to go by their rules while you live there. That's different than thinking like they do. Some folks have their minds made up about inter-racial relationships early on, and nothing may ever happen in their lives to change their opinions. If that is the case with your family, it looks as if as long as you live with their help, you will have to do things their way! It may not seem fair, but if you show them you are mature enough to swallow their rules and live by them, then they might just figure you are mature enough to choose your own partners. Give it a try... what do you have to lose?
2006-12-12 14:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by themom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a parent. I have three grown children. My two daughters both had dates with other races. I never discouraged it. Here is why, My wife and I have been married for 26 years. The reason we have been married for 26 years is we have unabashed true love. It's sappy for a dude to say, but it's true. So, my take on my children was, true love is so hard to find, why should a simple thing like race stand in the way? BUT, in addition, I would add, talk to your parents or someone about birth control. I would suggest abstinence, but that is not reality.
2006-12-12 14:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by hydroslug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i am sorry to hear that you lost your child. if you love the guy, stay with him. your parents have to understand that it is your life, and even though they are to protect you and guided you, the final decisions regarding your live is your decision.
your parents need to realize that even though they might not had like for you to have this man's child, that the child is also yours and why give up the idea of getting to know the child just because of prejudice. remember prejudice is something that you learned you are not born with.
even society is getting better at the point of accepting inter-racial relationships and children, i guess your parents are just trying to proect you. just try to bare with them and sit down and talk about it.
but within yourself, you really need to figure out if this will be a relationship that you want to be in.
2006-12-12 14:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your loss. I have been in several interracial relationships so I understand what you are going through. How old are you? Its ashame that your parents are not open minded people. I have never cared about what anyone thinks. Who I date is my business. Im african american and my parents don't have a problem with me dating outside my race...if they did I still wouldn't care...Im 28 so what I do is my business. What matters is that this person respects you and treats you well.
2006-12-12 14:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ur life u have 2 live 4 urself and noone else im mixed my father is white and my mother is black and puerto rican i know alot about racism from both sides white and black from experience and u have to overcome all that and live ur life for only you and what makes u happy and u will always b happy when u live 4 others u will never b happy
2006-12-12 14:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. If you live with them then you should respect them. They only want whats best for you even if you cant see it. You will one day. Besides, you are only a trophy to black men. Black men like to knock up white women to show off they got a white girl. They dont respect their own women why would they respect you.
2006-12-12 14:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there no rule on love girl if you know this is right and this is what you want then stick with your man there ur parents they should love you if you were datin a horse just stick with ur gut youll make the right descion
2006-12-12 14:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by devon a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out on your own and be with him
2006-12-12 14:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about your loss.
Don't let them dicate who you love! You are dating him, not them.
2006-12-12 14:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋