USA is new to me, as I am from India. I got to meet this nice,old man at our apartment gym. He used to be very good to me, although I dont speak American English. Today I got to know that he lives next to my home and I invited him to my home. He did come. But my husband told me that it is not advisable to bring home new people so soon in USA, unlike in India. Is it wrong?
2006-12-12 05:56:36 · 13 answers · asked by Malu 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Maybe you should invite him to dinner when your husband is home. Of course - you should probably talk to your husband about it first.
2006-12-12 06:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by gold 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is differntin america when you bring another man home. Because they always have different intentions. if it was a woman you met it would be different. And I bet your husband would be like: "oh great she is making friends".I mean i brought people to my house after 2 days of meeting them. Because I felt a sense of confort around them and notihhng negative.
There is NO RULE or time period to inviting a person to your home in the USA. it's a pretty universal thing. if you feel like you trust that person it's not a problem. inite them over. especially when he's your neighboor that's even a good thing to get along with yout neighbors and invite them over. Because most neighboors in america don't talk to eachother. Your husband is just over reacting!! =]
2006-12-12 06:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be careful inviting men into your home when your husband isn't home because the man could get the wrong idea and think you want something other than a cup of tea.
2006-12-12 06:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right - please be more careful you could be hurt that way. It is unusual in our culture to bring home people we've only just met. It would be more likely that we would invite them to a favorite restaurant. Our homes are open to our close friends and relatives. I would be wary of anyone who would be okay with coming over so soon in your friendship.
2006-12-12 06:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tin Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im hoping that your hisband is telling you this out of PROTECTION and not out of CONTROLING.
It's true many people here in USA have bad intentions, it's pretty sad we can't be as trusting like as you say where you come from.
2006-12-12 06:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a mattter of right or wrong, just advisable NOT to do so. new country, new language and culture should lead you to being extra cautious. You never truly know one's intentions until they surface.
2006-12-12 06:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Primitive thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say old. do you mean as in ....there is no attraction between you both???he is a friend only...like a daddy type friend or etc...
if so then I do not see an issue with it....I have alot of elderly friends...
2006-12-12 06:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see anything wrong with it. As long as he's a nice guy, then I dont see a problem.
2006-12-12 06:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by pebbles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if your husband thinks that it's appropriate to have your friend over, have him over. It sounds very friendly to me.
2006-12-12 08:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband was there then it was fine under the circumstances you give.
2006-12-12 06:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by idahomike2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋