My boyfriend and I have been together for six years. We have an amazing relationship (so I thought). Recently, he went away on a trip with his father for 2 weeks. The first day he returned we had a lot of fun together. A few days later, he explained to me that he needed time to think and get things straight; he just wasn't having fun. He said he loves and cares about me and that is why we need to take a break. Although we lived together, for the first few days of our break-up, he went out constantly to the bars. He, then, began including me in things he did with his friends. He still says he needs time to figure things out, but still confesses his love for me. Can anyone help me and tell me what's going through my boyfriend's head?
2006-12-12 05:54:22 · 15 answers · asked by Jill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, I'm sorry to tell you that he never committed and six years gave him plenty of time. He's now met someone else.... and he's thinking over what he wants. He is not committed and never was.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-12 05:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say I agree wth marie. My boyfriend and I are going through the same thing. Sometimes a dude just needs his space and there's nothin wrong with that but it's up to you to stick around and wait or move on. All I can say is don't let your fears or insecurities make the decision for you. If he's still confessing his love for you then believe him and even if he did cheat on you forgive him... dudes are curious sometimes, but he loves you. That's just me. Life aint so serious all the time. he cheated... he cheated. Love him UNCONDITIONALLY 24/7.
2006-12-12 14:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by lolo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he met someone on this trip as well...he's probably trying to decide what he wants and is confused. But who knows, I guess when he's ready he will talk to you and tell you what the real deal is. Until then, maybe you need to take care of yourself and have a lil fun too.
2006-12-12 14:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinkin to himself if its hes meant to be with you and if yall goin to work out thigns just hit boys like that sometimes i know how you feel i was in the same thing but he stay away from me and now were back were we started as friends but we still love each other but what im saying is he need time and you do to see what you want to do is he the one for you and if you that need some time think about that
2006-12-12 13:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by skylar M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your boyfriend is being sincere.
i had to say that after seeing that first a*sshole's response.
it sounds to me like he's becoming more serious about you and your relationship together. it's a positive thing he's including you at times. you should include him as well. be casual. he LIKES you and wants to be around you. let him have his time, it's going to be for the better in the long run.
2006-12-12 14:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the trip really wasn't with his father, but another woman, and he's either trying to figure out how to tell you so you can work on your relationship, or he's trying to make you dump him so he doesn't feel responsible.
2006-12-12 14:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by PAMELA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing the field and keeping you on the side as back up. Confront him asap. If he can't answer, he doesn't care enough. Then you should leave for someone who will.
2006-12-12 13:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just needs time to think it has nothing against you men dont really express their fellings no matter how long you been together if a man has a problem they dnt even go to their best friends they rather handle it by themselves
2006-12-12 14:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by lilgpc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say it sweety but those are signs of him cheating. I think you have to look into that for your own good.
Good Luck
2006-12-12 13:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by ivonne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to be broken up with you but feels you and his comfort level is to strong to let go of... if your not living with him now, distance yourself from him, and if he loves you then he will come around again.
2006-12-12 13:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋