Is this girl a keeper or a tosser???

Question

Ok I had a great talk with a girl I met maybe 4 months ago.

We made eye contact and were attracted to one another. She showed interest and I asked for her mobile and she gave it.

We hit it off on the phone and I texted poems she inspired me to write and she would sing her favorite songs to me, and we would teach each other languages we knew. and she started calling me "dear" and we were emotionally bonding. I could totally just feel her emotions without her needed to speak.

Then we had our first misunderstanding. I got hurt andshe got angry at my response. Then we didnt talk for days. Then she told me she is dating a guy at work (I met) and said she will marry him. I knew it wasnt true and I didnt speak of it again. Our intimacy was cut and I called her off and on for 2-3 months and she was generally angry or cold.

Today we talked for 2 hrs after so long, she admitted she was not dating, and she was opening up and getting sweet.

I admit I blew it then. Opinions/Advice?

I have always felt with her that things are going to work out and we will be married and together. But she doesnt date. She only will go out with the guy she will marry. I have met her at her work and when Im with her I just totally keep a connection like the first time we met. It was love at first sight. I feel safe with her emotionally even though we grew apart for the past few months. Today that feeling came back. We hurt eachother by reacting to a misunderstanding and I guess we are both very sensitive.

At the same time she never refused my calls, and would call me back when she missed my calls. She was saying she wants to go slow and talk once a week. so we have been doing that more or less.

She told me that some of her make friends expressed wanting to get closer to her and she says she in not interested nor has feelings for them like that, and that it is going to probably those relationships.

This was after I told her Im having a biz mtg a lady who flirted w/me.

Happyfeet...Trust is amazingly automatic because she cant really lie to me....I can feel what she is thinking and feeling. When she said it I knew it was cause i hurt her by what i said, and i knew it wasnt true. It didnt anger me, I totally understood her. She cant hide her feelings from me somehow. We have some strange and sweet connection with our feelings. THat is what got me with her from the first glance. She just went inside a shell after she hurt me and I responding in kind, I really regret it, but i was really hurt. Anyways I cant let her go..,lol

She is more attractive to me than Ms. World (who i met). I really value her and I have been kicking myself for what i said before, I can easily see her as the only woman in the world. Looks like time is healing.

Answer 1

she sounds like a keeper but who should know better than you,right? What do you think?
She seem to be into you she was just upset and needed some time.
Talk about the arguement and get it behind you, and start fresh.
good luck.

Answer 2

Sorry to say this but if the two you were growing that strongly together then didn't speak for months because of a misunderstanding & you both our sensitive. How can you expect to carry on a real strong relationship? And I'm not so keen on women how lie to hurt men. She told you those lies about seeing other men deliberately to hurt you, there would be no other reason for it. I'm glad you had an emotional connection together, but do you want to spend the rest of your life walking around on tiptoes & wondering if she's telling you the truth or not? I'd toss her. And work on some communication skills before you get into another relationship.

Answer 3

first it sounds like she is young. so it could be the age. also if you only have a phone commintment, then if you want to talk to her, u do if not you dont. if it is an intimacy (make sure she does think of you as a friend with benefits and nothing else). it is really in your court. if you like her lots, then let her back in your life. if not, give her the walking papers.

Answer 4

Tosser.

Because, trust is the foundation to any type of relationship. She lied about dating a guy, then lied and said they'd get married what other lies did she say about them? Well the whole story she told you was a lie.

What relationship? lol

Answer 5

the subject isn't the christian females, that's you! you do no longer comprehend the concepts of ladies folk, women folk are multi taskers and adult males are single job. And in the event that they have been truly "christian females" they might not be there with you in the morning, they might not be there in any respect! The Bible says to no longer be unequally yoked to a non-believer.

Answer 6

you need to address the issue that caused her to be so upset. there may be more to it than you think. once you give her a chance to explain it and understand why it made her upset then you can decide if it is repairable. just ask her to tell you exactly what is bothering her. Tell her that you can't fix the problem unless she tells you what it is.

Answer 7

You already know if she is or isn't a keeper only you know what she's really like, trust and honesty are the heart of a relationship and in that order.

Answer 8

Tell her that you want to start over, to make a clean start. Tell her that you are interested in making this work and apologize for the argument that you had.

Answer 9

i think that shes a keeper because if you guys are both willing to be fair with each other then the least you deserve is love.

Answer 10

you want her? beg like a dog, I'm talking about flower candy and all that. It's going to cost you more then money but pride too.

You want it that badly?