Scenerio: Inter-office fling. Lasts for a while then fizzles out but not in the most graceful way. How to handle? Yes, it is tabu and must be kept secret as careers are at stake. How do you handle seeing someone who has obviously moved on, won't sit next to you and flirts with others in the office when you are still trying to get over falling for them? Any advice is appreciated, my friends.
2006-12-12 05:48:34 · 5 answers · asked by ☽☮★♥ Alphα Fєmmє Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Will this awkwardness ever subside, I ponder... For instance, we have many, many office functions that require that we are both present. Previously he would save me a seat and suddenly, that gesture is no more. Fair enough, I will remain cordial and professional but I am very, very uncomfortable... and this is a great job that I have so I can't get up and leave just like that. Do I pretend that I don't care? Does that ever really work?
2006-12-12 06:01:19 · update #1
Move onto me!!
2006-12-12 05:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Paul M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By simply getting on with your life. Of course what eats at you is that he's making progress towards getting into the panties of someone else. Much the same way he got into yours. it stinks knowing that you were taken advantage of and now are a notch in some man's bedpost.
Best thing to do is try and put it to the back of your mind and move onwards. Of course...know that he may have told some of his pals of your passionate affair and worse...all the gory details of anything and everything you may have done in bed. makes for a rather embarrassing situation. Especially if the men in the office stare at you alittle longer than normal or stop talking when you walk in the room.
Obviously leaving the job is out of the question so chalk it up to a bad move on your part. You're a bug girl....you'll do fine.
2006-12-12 05:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS is why office romances are a poor idea.
Other than transferring to a different department/location or quitting the company, one just has to be mature and deal with it. Painful or not...the risks were known up front and accepted...personal responsibility is what happens now.
And learn the lesson...I've been temped myself to date or "play" with a coworker...but at times like this, does it really seem worth it?
2006-12-12 05:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a different job if possible. You don't want to stay in that situation
2006-12-12 05:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Joey R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
learn fron your mistakes
2006-12-12 05:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋