Before I started to go out with my boyfriend of almost 6 months we were friends for about a year. Before that he had bought strippers and stuff and had many partners. Can I trust him, if he says that he will change for me. So far everything is fine, but will I be able to neglect this as something for to watch him for? He doesn't have any porn on his coputer, when he did, he removed it all but he did not really have mucch in the first place. Nothing really. He's not the type of guy to have women pictures on his walls or anything. He doens;t go out with his buddies or anything, he is relativly anti-social. It seems good, but should I be worried? Or is he giving me the respect that I give him by being faithful in everyway? Sounds silly? Oh well.
2006-12-12 05:45:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's changing on a dime for you, I'd be quiet and see how long it lasts. Sudden dramatic changes don't always take. Don't harangue him about it, though...he may be doing right by you and he'll resent it if you still question him.
P.S. At most, he rented strippers. Lincoln made it illegal to buy them.
2006-12-12 05:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He have realized that the life he was living was worth nothing so he is trying to make a fresh start with you. Try not to judge him by his past but always "keep an eye out".
If you have not yet have sex with him or even if you have, based on his background details, i think you both should visit a doctor and do an overall check-up. The idea of multiple sex partners means a higher risk of STD's, some with symptoms not visible.
2006-12-12 13:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should trust him. This is a new relationship and you always have to start out with trust, or else there's no reason to start in the first place. While I agree that its ok with you to worry since you are aware of all the stuff he's done previously, you still need to give him complete trust.
2006-12-12 14:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question that only time can answer. Typically men don't change at all, but they have to change to a certain extent if they want to participate in a long term committed relationship.
If you expect to have a real relationship with this person you must trust him. Trust is the foundation of successful relationships. If there's no trust there's no happiness.
FP
2006-12-12 13:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have nothing to worry about, remember give him all your trust until he gives you a reason not too. Enjoy your relationship and get over the pass, people do change.
2006-12-12 13:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one "changes for" anyone! They might tell you that to get you into their web, but they don't change. They are who they are. A good indicator of future behavior is past behavior. People can change, but if they say they are changing for you, that should plant a big red flag right between your eyes. Maybe he's just gotten better at hiding things.
2006-12-12 13:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need to trust him...Because he need to change for himself first no for you It maybe that he will change but he always will want to do such things...And one of those days he will snap and then the relationship will end...He need to change just because that is what he really wants...Sometimes people take time to grew up...If he knows he is tired of that and want to settle down because that kind of life don't make him happy anymore then means he start to get in the mature stage of his life...That is growing up...Trust is something very vital in a relationship...With out trust is nothing good to wait for.
2006-12-12 13:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave past mistakes in the past, if he seems to be changing his ways for you then that's great. But remember to always keep your eyes and ears open , because you never know if his past curiosities will come back. Good luck with the new, and i hope it's out with the old.
2006-12-12 13:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by hugabug72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry to much most guys are honest, I said most not all. but did he have a girlfriend during the time when he bought strippers and stuff. if not don't worry he just wanted sex and orgasms, now he has you and you probably giving him all he needs, so I wouldn't worry if I was you
2006-12-12 13:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by eclipsefreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one that knows him...and you chose to get involved with him, knowing about his past. If you didn't think he was trustworthy, why go there in the first place?
Time will tell...but it sounds like you're already worried and haven't had any reason for it yet.
2006-12-12 13:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋