i have a girlfriend that just found out she's pregnant, her and the guy weren't serious and he has to many kids as is. she's going to end the preg, but isn't sure if she should tell the guy or not. i don't know what to tell her( he'd probably agree with her to end the pregnancy) don't misunderstand she doesn't want anymore kids either. it was a honest mistake an believe me she's beating herself up enough so please only those with intellegent answers reply thanks ahead of time
2006-12-12 05:44:54 · 11 answers · asked by golden 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Speaking as a man, it's not only her decision. It may be her body, but what happened involved as much of him as her. He deserves to know what's going on.
2006-12-12 05:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by TheGonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with her getting an abortion and not telling him after all she is the one that is going to be responsible for it as it is i truly think men should have no say so in this matter and i know i am gonna hear bad things from men here about this answer but i don't care. or she could tell him look am not asking what you think i am telling you what i am doing and you have no say in the matter and That's true parents of minors can stop abortion of th eir daughters but only if there under 18 there is nothing about the fathers and chances are if they both already have alot af kids between them they are already strapped and having difficulty with their own children sometimes its better to do the right thing for your self and not worry about anybody else.if i was her I'd get the abortion and to hell with the man but i would also get an IUD or maybe a tubal that way she won't have to worry about it in the future.
2006-12-12 06:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other options besides ending the pregnancy. Babies are usually adopted fast. The child will end up with a good home and a family that cares about him/her. It wont cost the mother a thing. The hospital will take the baby to these people for her, no questions asked. SHE HAS NOTHING TO LOSE!
2006-12-12 05:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by CAUTION:Truth may hurt! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a hard situation for you, I really do feel sorry for you, your will not have to deal with the emotional effects of this on your girlfriend which will be tough. If I was in her situation and going to do that then I would tell the guy but to try and hurt him, that sounds really evil but he sounds like an ***. But it's her personal decision if she feels she has made her decision and theres no reason that he needs to know then don't bother telling him.
2006-12-12 06:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I agree...she should really consider putting the child up for adoption because even though it was an "honest mistake" on their part, it's not the child's fault. No offense but shouldn't they have used protection if they both didn't want any kids? Ultimatley it's her decision if she can live with herself for not having the kid or not. Good Luck!
2006-12-12 05:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by dazed*n*confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to tell him. No matter what she decides to do with the baby, telling him is the best thing to do! A man hates it when he has to find out something from other people. Not saying that he will, but just to be safe and so that she wont feel guilty later on in life. No regrets is the best way to live!!!
Hope this helps her!!! Good Luck :)
2006-12-12 05:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by pswb6002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say consider adoption, but if she wants to end it, then it is her decision. Pregnancy is hard. I think she should tell him, especially if he's going to agree, he has a right to know. It's a hard position, but if she were the dad, would she want to know about it??? I think I would. I guess she should evaluate him and their relationship and decide based on that whether he would rather know that she terminated his pregnancy or not know... sometimes ignorance is bliss...
Good luck
2006-12-12 05:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Suliah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the guy, he has a moral obligation to know. He may even step up, and offer to help her through this. Her decision is her own personal choice, and there will be lots of posters trying to make you and her feel guilty. In my personal opinion, it's completely up to her, and a private decision.
2006-12-12 05:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by bon b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be completely up to her. In my opinion, because they aren't close, neither wants kids, and provided she doesn't want financial help to get the abortion, I wouldn't bother telling him.
2006-12-12 06:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her to consider adoption abortion is murder and its not birth control. the baby deserves to live.
2006-12-12 06:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋