I have never gotten along with my stepmom and she has never really liked me. With us constantly disliking each other it has made my relationship with my dad more difficult to have. I invited her to my wedding mostly to smooth things over with my dad, but that has back fired. She doesn't want anything to do with me. Which I am okay with except I know this is going to hurt my dad. Now I am wondering if my dad will come to my wedding at all.
2006-12-12 05:36:28 · 5 answers · asked by amanda w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, that's too bad, and I'm sorry it's affected your relationship with your dad, he shouldn't have let a 2nd wife affect his relationship with a child, but some guys do. It sounds like you've made some effort here with her as well. I'd talk to your dad, tell him how much it will mean to you to have him at your wedding, and then leave the decision to him. Be prepared for him to not be there, and then if he is, it will be a pleasant surprize. I'm surprized your step mother can't suck it up, and be pleasant just for her husband's daughter's wedding day. She doesn't have to be your best friend here, just a decent person.
2006-12-12 05:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very sad that you think that your father may not attend his daughters wedding. Speak with your dad and tell him how much you want him to attend whether or not his wife attends or not. If you cannot iron things out with your step mom then I suppose you'll have to live with it, but she is making a big mistake by not choosing to befriend you as you are your dad's blood. In the long run it might certainly affect her relationship with your dad and she will end up the loser. Try and be as respectful as humanly possible to this woman and at least you'll feel better for doing all you could to help repair this relationship. Again I would recommend you speaking with your dad and let him know how important it is that he attend your "special day" and I hope that he is honoured to have you want him there so badly. Have a marvelous wedding and do not allow this women's envy, jealousy or whatever her supposedly adult behaviour to put any type of a damper on it.
2006-12-12 13:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray about it and ask god to step in and make it better he answers prayers so don't give up yet he has the last say in all things so put your trust and faith in him and see what happens he will not leave you nor forsake you just cast your cares upon him.
2006-12-12 13:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your stepmother need to go out for lunch and talk tell her you know she do not care for you but i really want my dad to be at my wedding so could we put our difference to the side for that day and longer if possible
2006-12-12 13:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by Summer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To hell with her and to hell with him for putting up with her. You have a husband now, focus on pleasing him instead of your parents.
2006-12-12 13:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋