I broke with my Gf of 3months because she always use to fight with me for no reason at all. She said its her nature and she cant help it. Later when i broked-off she said she realized from her heart tht it was her fault, and tht if i give her a second chance she would never ever let me down.
She hurted me terribly and tht my trust on her is totally broken, but now when she "pleads" to me i just cant see her that way coz i care for her.
So what you guys think? shall i take her back ? i mean will it be wise OR it will infact harm me in future by taking such a decision ?
Serious anwers plz
2006-12-12 05:34:36 · 34 answers · asked by Noel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you care for her, it's worth trying it out again. Relationships, even good ones, take effort from both sides. It would be better to talk to her about these things before you break everything off. I would try a slow ramp up, and if things go well from there, reestablish the relationship. I don't see how it could harm you. Like Merle Haggard said, "If we're not back in love by Monday, we can't say we didn't try."
2006-12-12 05:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by TheGonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can change, but it takes time.
Time and a lot of hard hard work.
Ask yourself how much time you want
to put into her recovery from violence.
It is after all her recovery. But it does
take two to fight. Check Yourself......
Then if you want to try, the both of you
need to go to counseling. Maybe even
live apart, until she proves that she is
serious about the counseling. A good
counselor may suggest medication.
When she starts to get her temper
ironed out, maybe then you can get
together again. Slowly...Good Luck
I don't think most people are lying
when they say they want change.
I think they just lack the skills.
Serious skills take a lot of time.
2006-12-12 05:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe give it another chance. But set a time limit on it at first. IF things are still bad in 3 weeks, know that at that time you are walking away. Sometimes people make the mistake of always thinking "it will get better" when in fact it won't. Keep re-evaluating your time with her at regular intervals, and see if it is good or better or not, until you do regain your trust in her. Good luck.
2006-12-12 05:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...heavily - what's faulty with you human beings!?!?!? Why do you want to be so CRASS about something someone is attempting to be certain out?! First - i do not comprehend how old both of you're even with the undeniable fact that it type of sounds like she has an obsessive /abusive project with you. Is it achievable that she has reason to be insecure? Have both of you cheated on one yet another before? Has she been cheated on before? In ANY relationship - no remember what age you're- you need to be so a lot extra respectful to at least one yet another than you're. It somewhat sounds like you do not deal with one yet another okay. It also sounds like you do not somewhat seek for suggestion from from one yet another. have you ever tried to ask her why she is treating you so badly? Or why she feels the favor to call you or textual content you so usually? let her comprehend that she is performing obsessive and also you do not comprehend why. i detect it so unusual that maximum folk would come to this website and ask complete strangers what they ought to do about their relationships - at the same time as the guy they favor to be chatting with is both next to them, or contained in the replicate. seek for suggestion from from HER. If she doesn't have an answer for something - per chance you need to interrupt it off for a lengthy time period. Get some area between you. re-analyze issues. only a idea. good luck.
2016-11-25 23:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance. Sometimes people fight because they love each otehr so much and should normally draw you closer together. When you get back with her, talk to her about being open. When she feels something is wrong to tell you instead of just getting angry. This way you will both understand what is going on. Maybe she is just too possesive.
2006-12-12 05:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~*RaMpAgE*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but three months in a relationship is not much but puppy love but if she's trying to work it out and you love her than maybe you should try to work on your relationship. Because no relationship perfect and everyone goes through there goods and bads (ups and downs) But if you feel like shes going to hurt again then I say keep it moving and find something new. Maybe its a reason why she wants to work it out. is it your $ or assets etc. Never let a girl keep you around because of what you have she's suppose love you for you truthfully in three months i would let her *** go. sorry to say
2006-12-12 05:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by laki2lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do take her back, then thinks are just not going to be the same.. That trust and respect isn't there anymore.. I don't' think it's a good idea to take her back.. You don't that from a partner.. I say just stay friends with her if you care for her that much, doubt she'd want to be friends with you if don't take her back, and if that happens then you know you made the right decision.. Good luck with what your going to do..
2006-12-12 05:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by crazgrss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey brosef-
If I where you I would give her some type of trial period. you know hang out a bit catch a movie. Maybe even a party like social setting if you see improvment then give her a shot. If she reverts back to the old ways then you know what to do. Also you need to be up front with her and the terms of the deal.
good luck.
Mr.S
2006-12-12 05:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep away. It sucks when you care about someone, but it will be more of the same and chances are it will get worse as time goes on. People dont change from their "nature". I wish you the best with your decision but I think you should let this one go.
2006-12-12 05:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by behr28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are still young, she has time to change. I don't see a problem with taking her back. Just as long as you two try to work things out, and take the time to listen to each other. Thats the key,
2006-12-12 05:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by Yello_dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋