How do you feel about your boyfriend/girlfriend hanging out with the opposite sex. My boyfriend goes out with his bestfriend, who is a guy. But his friend brings girls along. They don't go out on dates or anything, just to like parties and clubs, where there are large groups of people.I trust him completly but sometimes it bothers me. How would you feel about it?
2006-12-12 05:31:05 · 25 answers · asked by Princesa2dy4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off you need to get passed that. If he is going to do something wrong, he will do it weather you want him too or not.So If I was you let him do what hes going to and if it turns out bad there isn't much you can do about it but move on.The more you try to hold someone back because you are insecure about something the more likely it will be that they get annoyed by your behavior and do the opposite that you want them to do. just be cool and trust that your the one he wants.
2006-12-12 05:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you basically answered your own question. if you trust him you shouldn;t worry about it. But obviously you have something in the back of your mind that doesn't trust him. Here is a perfect example of real trust. I was listing to a love and reltionship talk show and this guy let his best friend stay the weekend at his house with his wife there while he went out of town. The friend couldn;t believe that he did that. He called that the Ultimate trust. Because its not about trusting the other person its about trusting your man/spouse. So ask yourself do you really trust him like you say you do?
2006-12-12 05:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends of the opposite sex, and I'd never cheat. Then again, I'm old enough that I'm not going out to clubs a lot. It would bother me if my boyfriend were abnormally close to his friends that are girls, but their friendship seems normal. They don't talk 10 times a day, and they hang out once in a while when both their schedules allow it. And I'm welcome to come along.
2006-12-12 05:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first let me state that I am one of the girls who hangs out with mostly guys and nothing is more annoying than the girls who think that just because I have a vagina that men can't be around me without wanting to have sex. There is no difference what so ever between my friendship with my guy friends and their friendship with each other other than the fact that I am equipped differently. If in fact you do trust your boyfriend then you shouldn't have a problem with this unless you have insecurity issues. In this day in time a lot of women, myself included, have grown tired of dealing with the drama (just like this) that comes with being friends with other women hence the fact that we don't hang out with them. Don't assume that every women wants to sleep with your boyfriend. Think of it this way. Chances are they were friends before you were there. If they had wanted to date your BF or if he wanted to date them........they would be dating.
The worst mistake you could ever make is to attempt to come between a man and his friends.......and that includes female ones. Many have tried and many have failed and if you don't want to join the latter group I suggest you not mention your insecurities to your BF.
2006-12-12 05:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female who has many, many male friends, it was always something that I was upfront about when dating someone new. I made sure that my new boyfriend always met my male friends, so he understood that I had nothing to hide. I recently got married, and my husband had two of my male friends in the wedding party. He gets along with them as well as I do. Its all about open communication and trust.
2006-12-12 05:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about trust if some decide to cheat there is no power that can prevent them from doing so.Do not focus on this or it will only manifest into your reality,keep cool and stay positive and most of be secure and confident in what you both have.
2006-12-12 05:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant accept the fact that he doesn't invite you along then you need to step your game up and go out to the same club he goes to and see if he acts funny style or not if acts like he doesn't know you then you need to think twice about this relationship
2006-12-12 05:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by laki2lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I would be ok with something like that. Why arn't you going out and partying with your bf?? You should, instead of these other girls. In my situation, my bf doesn't like to go out and party like I do. So what I do is just go out and party without him like once a month if that. Communication is ket to any relationship. You need to let him know that you dont like that he does that and how it makes you feel, see what happens from there.. good luck to you
2006-12-12 05:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by BuNNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I find myself to be a decently jealous person, but when you trust someone, the jealousy fades a bit and if you are secure with the relationship you have as well. I think that if he is hanging out with other girls, that you should be invited along. If he is going to be friends with people, you should be friends with them as well.
-EA
2006-12-12 05:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me, its more of a problem if they make it an issue to hang out alone with someone of the opposite sex. but i mean if they're in a big group what's the big deal?
2006-12-12 05:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by iron chef bryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋