My husband's parents are driving out for 3 whole days for Xmas this year. They are staying with my brother in law's family...2 hours away. My husband's kids (who I do not get along with AT ALL) will be there too. I don't care to be around any of my husbands family. His parents are gossips, his brother is rude to his wife...calls her a fat a$$ b*tch, etc and his brother kids AND his kids are rude, horrible, delinquent brats.
We are supposed to drive 2 hours each way, in L.A. work traffic to go take a "family" picture and hang out. I have zero desire. The thought of it is making me sick.
We have a 4 yr old son who I have to pick up from school that day. I still have to go to work the day of and day after so playing "sick" wont work.
I need a really good, believable excuse to avoid the whole thing altogether...making it look like it's not my fault and there is no way I could have avoided it.
Any creative ideas?
2006-12-12 05:30:53 · 16 answers · asked by Get a life 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you could feed him some funny food, perhaps under cooked pork so he gets food poisoning, it aint your fault then...or just crash the car the day before, nothing to serious, but it cant be driven for 2 hours.......
2006-12-12 05:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you, I have the same exact problems, but now, me and that family dont talk anymore, I told my husband that his family is weird, and Its either me or them, he chose me so they are out of the picture. Heres some excuses, You had to work overtime, depending on what type of job you have, you had to go visit your side of the family for the holidays because one of your relatives came down. Act like there's something wrong with your vehicle. Thats all I can think of. I would try to use work as an excuse. Hope this helps.
2006-12-12 05:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband say about all this? Have you even talked with him about it? I always let my husband deal with the issues I have with his family, and he lets me deal with the issues he has with mine.
And while I can completely and totally see your point, sometimes we have to suck it up and deal with these family "appearances" as best we can. Go take the picture, and spend minimal time there, and then tell your husband you need to leave. He should support you in this. But it's going to take some compromise on your part as well. I'll bet if you're willing to give a bit, he will give on staying around for very long. Try to put a positive spin on the whole affair, and please don't lower yourself to their level.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-12 05:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does each person appear to feel home violence is a one sided factor? I had been in little scuffles with family ago and we each hit eachother... it does not imply that one individual will get beat. Well, of path typically it does and that's no longer applicable. But if it is a little love combat and you've got irritated intercourse, then hell sure cross domestication!!!! And for the signal.... beautiful!
2016-09-03 17:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my-something very similar plagued me for a few years. I got out of Christmas day by saying that a good girlfriend of mine became very sick with flu, was unable to travel, and I just could not leave her alone all day. I was lucky that my husband played along. I did it very last minute and have no idea if they believed me. It WAS a little out there... good luck from someone who feels your pain :)
2006-12-12 05:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
on your way there, to there place call them from a payphone or cell and tell them the car broke down that happens alot on LA highways, if your husband is going with you then that is out not a good excuse. however have husband pickup your son from school and take him to there house, then you call and say you had car problem or you have to pickup family that never arrived.. or tell them the truth.
2006-12-12 06:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by sam i am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we marry someone, we marry their family too. You don't get along with your husband's own kids, much less his extended family. You should not make things up. You should tell your husband how you feel, and that you love him and realize he needs his family in his life, so you will go for his sake, unless he doesn't want to go either. Let him make the decision and go along if he wants to go.
You also need to get counseling to learn how to deal with people. None of us gets along with everyone, but sometimes we have to deal with people we don't like.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-12 05:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell em you have to work part of the day and can't make it. Otherwise just say you can't make it, other things have come up. What does your husband think, explain to him why you don't want to go, make him give an excuse.
2006-12-12 05:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can say that you have headache, but I think it is better to go and spend a day with them.
they are after all your family now, and your kid's grand parents.
If I was you I would do it just for my husband and child.
I hope you have a good time there
2006-12-12 05:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, tell them that you're having horrible cramps, unbearable heat flashes, and random mood swings, and that you don't think you could take being around all of the people without flipping out and killing someone, especially not after the 2 hour drive.
2006-12-12 05:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋