Ok tell me what you think, I have a brother who tries to take care of his 4 kids out of 2 ladies, and one is not even his. But out of both bitches they want money but wont let him see his kids and if he does one would only let him see his son for 2 hours the boy loves his daddyand hasnt seen his dad in a year, out of the whole weekend she only let him see him for 2 hours and the other ***** well she let the kids live with him cuz shes sick but as soon as shes better she tears them out of shcool and wont letthem see there dad intill she gets sick again. and the kids dont even live with her they live at there grandmas in a diffrent house then their moms. He is such a good dad he does everything with them parks ,homework, takes them to work sometimes ,gets involved with dance stuff like that and she does nothing with them dont even take care of them, litteraly. they do live 6hrs away he takes them to see her when shes sick, these kids are put threw hell everytime she does it.
2006-12-12 05:30:42 · 10 answers · asked by manny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
fight for custody if not for you do it for the children
2006-12-12 05:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to start writing down everything that happens. Record dates, times, what happens, and what is said. If any money is given to either mother make sure that it is with a check, never cash. Record amounts, dates, and check numbers. Any money spent on the kids while in the father's possesion doesn't legally count towards support for the child. Talk to an attorney about options. Having documented info. and legal advice may be enough to scare these women into thinking that this dad is serious. But, you may have to spend the money and take them to court. Be careful though, the courts are only interested in the CHILD'S best interest, not yours. If your info. shows that you have been wronged, but the children are not suffering from dad being out of the picture, the judgement may go to the moms. Just make sure you do everything for the kids and try to ignore the momma drama.
I was a single mom for years and dealt with a dead beat dad. He loved his daughter very much. He took her to the park, camping, McDonald's, etc. He loved to play with her. But, that is all he did. He never helped out financially. He moved far away and used his work as an excuse to never have time. Really, he chose to party with his friends and live a criminal lifestyle. He missed birthday parties and other events. He never even called. He claimed that it was easier for him to have no contact; it hurt less. What he didn't realize is that his 3-yr-old daughter needed more than just an occasional playmate for her father. He thought that the love he felt made him a good dad. He passed away last year after an incident caused by his party lifestyle. He was selfish and claimed that I was a ***** and wouldn't let him see his daughter. He deceived himself as well as other people. I hope that this guy you are talking about is not like this.
People say that life is short. Life can be long, but the time that we have to spend with people may be short. Take advantage of each moment!
2006-12-12 06:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else, your choice of language referring to the women in your brother's life is not appropriate. Something tells me he never bothered marrying either of these "women" either, which I'm sorry, does NOT make him a good dad. A good dad marrys his child's mother, and does the best he can to provide a stable environment for the child to be raised in. Taking a child to a park every once in awhile does not make someone a good parent, you have to be there every single day and night. Maybe your brother should start using condoms, since he's sleeping around with such women anyway. That's been known to prevent the little complication of pregnancy.
It sounds like he needs to consult with an attorney, and get some visitation benefits for his children. The one that's not his will be trickier. He'll probably have to undergo paternity testing as well, unless he's listed as the father on the children's birth certificates. Yes, he'll have to pay some child support, which he should be doing anyway, since they are HIS children.
2006-12-12 05:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your anger, but I don't think this is the best way to help your brother. He needs your support right now. And I'm sure he is angry at these women too. I know I would be if I was in his shoes.
What you can do for your brother is be there for him. Help him seek legal advice, b/c what these "moms" are doing is not right at all! But be supportive and help him figure out a way to get his kids in a safe and secure environment. You can complain about these women all you want, but the only people hurting out of this is your brother and his kids.
2006-12-12 05:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by amanda w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get custody.
If you think you can do a better job, you owe it to your children to get them out of this environment.
You have the right to see your kids.
You are paying child support and you have those privileges.
2006-12-12 06:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets start with your your tone or the choice of words you use. then separate your self to do you own business, if any of this has to do with you be quiet support legal guardian and be good and giving to all children involved
2006-12-12 05:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to mind your businesses and and get out of there is a reason why they treat him that away he and you know it both mother of his children come on he have to done something
2006-12-12 05:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Summer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be they dont want their sons to grow up like their uncle ...and refer to women as bitches ...let your brother take care of his own..
2006-12-12 06:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by bo_dela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, your reference to women as b****** is offensive. Maybe your brother treats them like b******. Who are you to judge anyone when you refer to women as b******. Perhaps your brother does not need your two cents.
2006-12-12 05:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly45 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you're a whore -- does that make you feel better?
2006-12-12 05:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by JASNJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋