I have been dating my girlfriend for two years as of four days ago. I really do love her, and I'm 100% sure she feels the same for me. I am ready to take things to a more intimate level and she hints she wants the same. However, when things get hot & heavy, she stops me before I get dangerously heated. I'm not the type who only looks for one thing in a relationship, but I really want this. What am I to do?
2006-12-12 05:29:46 · 27 answers · asked by Kris Kardiac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to her!! That is the best advice I can offer. Pick a time when you're not being intimate though. Be totally honest about what you're both feeling, why you want to take this next step, and what she is scared or unsure about. Tell her that you love her and aren't going to pressure her if she's not ready. This is a very big deal, and you want to make sure you're both ready for it, and that this is not something that either of you are going to have second thoughts about after it happens. Be prepared for the fact that she may not be ready yet, and be careful not to pressure her if she isn't. Otherwise, she may start to steer clear of other things like cuddling or kissing you in case it "starts anything", or even resent you for pushing her. If and when she is ready too, then be sure to use protection.
You sound like a great guy. Make sure the time is right for both of you, and that it's a special time you can both remember forever.
2006-12-12 05:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by sodagoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,well,well, let's see............. I'm thinking it's because she's embarrased to show her body and she get 's nervous when u take it there. Maybe you need to make it romantic and dim the light's hell put on a scented candle, play a little music and see how far u go with that, always take your time don't rush anything she's not willing to do. Also don't just go straight to it u have to make her want to go to the next level, Start by kissing her neck and slowly make your way down( she'll love it )
2006-12-12 13:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by lo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is afraid. She may be afraid of getting pregnant or of the act itself. There is a certain amount of pain involved for a girls first time. Be patient with her. Take it very slow. Don't take any frustrations out on her it will only distance her.
Talk to her, find out what is bothering her. That is the best advice.
2006-12-12 14:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she a virgin? if so she might want to be sure your the right one she is just scared of getting hurt if she is not a virgin maybe before you a guy might of just used her for sex and she is scared of getting hurt again she might be scared of getting close to people because she is scared they might leave her i know you want that. i commend you on being with her that long because they are not that many guys that would wait so obviously you love her. just wait until she is ready and reassure her you will not leave her or hurt her like other people might have done
2006-12-12 13:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by ebeyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think more discussion is needed. Talk about her fears, concerns, and worries about the experience and what might happen. Discuss what each of you is/isn't comfortable with to help aleviate the fears.
2006-12-12 13:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by voyagerbck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro you need to talk to her,ask her straight out if shes ready and if she says no, then you have to support her with that, if you cant then let her go easy and dont tell her the real reason why ur breakin that will not be pretty good luck
lol :)
2006-12-12 13:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Shelby C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with her. If she is ready it will go to the next level
2006-12-12 13:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her but don't pressure her because it will only ruin things if you really live her just give her time but remember when she is ready you will both have to deal with the consequence that may present itself.
2006-12-12 13:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her and find out when she will be actually be ready. she might be scared you might leave her but you wont know how she feels if you dont talk to her and tell her what you want. Good Luck!!
2006-12-12 13:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See for me it be worries about getting pregnant thing. I think that is what stop most women from having sex with their partners. I think you should talk it over and ask her whats up hun. =)
2006-12-12 13:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by xnarx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋