Is it normal for women to date consistently without breaks?

Question

Over time I have learned that my girlfriend now of a year was a constant dater. One relationship into another and breaks were maybe a couple of weeks in between and it has been like that for her for the past 20 years. She has never married and I'm concerned if this is someone I want to be long term with because of her perceived lack of respect for relationships it seems. I feel she is settling on me because of her age and that her time is up. Do women date so frequently?

Answer 1

there might not be anything for you to worry about. While I am married now and was for 10 years after high school... in the 10 years between that I dated almost continuously. Rarely more than a few weeks went by without a new date popping up. I enjoy the company of men and liked dating. It was exciting and fun. Some times I got a bit serious and sometimes not. ( no, it was NOT always sex but dating )

There is no lack of respect just because you don't wait between dates to date again. I have always known when it was over it was over why mourn for what might have been.

You have to decide if she is serious about YOU or just settling down. If she has a decent job, a home, or just a good future even without you it is different than if she is barely making it and looking for a settle down security boyfriend/husband. I wouldn't think her dating history is the issue but her love for you and if you believe in it.

good luck!

Answer 2

I used to. My longest relationship was my past marriage (5 years), the next longest is my current marriage (2 years), and the rest were perhaps 2-4 months stints. Normally I know pretty quickly whether or not I can tolerate the person in the long term - and break it off if I don't think it's going anywhere; then get back on the "dating track" soon after. This is where my pattern comes from.

However, if your g/f has never been married in this whole time, this would raise the red flag for me. It's not that she "lacks respect" for relationships - but it seems that she might lack the intra-personal skills that are essential in long-term relationships.

Answer 3

Alot of girls are constant daters. The simple answer is that yes it is normal. She has been with you for a year, so she must have some respect for your relationship. It might also be helpful to look at the the lengths of her past relationships and why they ended. Her fault or his? Has she ever cheated on any of her boyfriends or you? She may just be a woman who kept looking until she found the "right" one. It just took her more tries or she was less willing to settle. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Some men and women relationship-hop. I would hesitate to get involved with anyone with such a history. They are typically needy, codependent people who don't know how to do anything alone or make a decision on their own...they don't know who they are, beyond being half of a couple.

A couple of weeks isn't long enough to get over a relationship that had any meaning...and continuous non-meaning relationships is someone who is either only interested in what they can get from someone (sex, money, etc) or who 'settles' just to be with someone until that person tires of them or someone better comes along.

Answer 5

Yes dude! VERY COMMON! Maybe 1-2 weeks between each guy. My friend has almost seamlessly transitioned from one guy to another for the last 40 years!!!! (Twice married). Beautiful women have it pretty much seamless, they will ALWAYS be able to get what they want. It will be your job to just take her away from the current guy.
In your case maybe you should just ask her where your relationship is going.
Good luck. Women are nothing but trouble.

Answer 6

She clearly doesn't lack respect of a relationship if you have been together for over a year. Lots of women don't like to be alone, and if you always have a boyfriend you won't be by yourself. Maybe she is scared to be alone, it is easier to get a boyfriend that make a new girlfriend.

Answer 7

I am not yet old enough to say this from experience, but I will say this from the experience who are likely your age and older:

Women who date constantly, and want to settle down after 10+ years of such activity, are dangerous. Often times, she simply decided to whore around for as long as she possibly could, and when she realized she couldn't attract as much male attention due to age, she then decides to look for a sucker, er, husband. Also, as you pointed out, her history is not one that would indicate monogamy, so I would be very careful.

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Answer 8

Some of them do. I don't like it either. If you get the real impression that she doesn't REALLY like you and is just settling for you, you should drop her and move on. That's what I think anyway. I don't know how old you are or how difficult it is for you to get into relationships though, so use your own judgment. Have a nice day!

Answer 9

Not normally. My sister is like that, maybe she has some emotionally problems that she always has to have to a man in her life. My sister has been though two marriages and hundreds of boyfriends, it seems that way. I know that my sister has a good heart and maybe she just hasn't found the right one yet. You just might be the right one for her.

Answer 10

First, this depends if these are just 'dates' or a dating, almost exclusive relationship. This is usually a sign of low self esteem. The girl doesn't feel good enough about herself to be by herself, so she seeks someone to be with to add to her value.