Ive just had an argument with my bf. Im really angry and upset. I cant talk to him coz he's angry2. I'm tryin really hard not to self harm. It's REALLY hard not to! Any tips? please!
2006-12-12 05:11:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Get out and jog down the street until you can't go anymore. Use the energy it takes to self harm and move it girl - get out and move.
Work on facing the emotion that makes you want to harm yourself.
Also please seek counseling.
2006-12-12 05:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by chris 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cutters do not arbitrarily hurt themselves just for the hell of it. Self harm releases endorphins that can help a person with emotional pain as well. There are other ways of getting the same endorphin release that are actually beneficial to you though. Exercise being the most notable example. Give it a shot; I think you will be pleasantly surprised with the feeling and the results. If you are not seeing a therapist, that would be the next step, do not be afraid to seek and ask for help. Everyone needs help at some point. I am bipolar and I have seen what happens when problems like these are ignored, trust me when I say it is not a road you want to go down. You may also want to reassess your relationship with this person, I am not saying breakup with him, just make sure he is right for you at this point in your life. Take care of your self and I wish you well, Jack of Hearts
2006-12-12 06:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by johuckabee@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible, phone a good friend, and cry/scream/moan down the phone at them. Once you get into the cycle of self-harm, it is SO difficult to stop. If you're upset, have a warm bath and a hot drink - pamper yourself and eat chocolate. If you're angry, try taking a red ballpoint pen and pretending you are cutting with it, someone mentioned the elastic band which is a good trick as well. Try popping loads of bubble wrap, or take an ice cube and try to crush it in your hand. It gives a sharp feeling of pain in your palm, and will eventually melt, leaving you more relaxed. I know some of this sounds nutty but it does work. Good luck!
2006-12-12 09:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by the_happy_green_fish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are contemplating self harm then you have to ask yourself is he worth this. It will not make him care anymore for you. If he cared you would not be here asking for help he would be there talking it out with you or saying hey babe lets take a breather from this problem and come back to it when we both calm down.
I have to ask you are you looking for real advice or just a confirmation that what you are wanting to do is okay. I would not even though I dont know you; would want you to harm yourself for someone or for anything. You need to find someone you can talk to and a safe place to go and de-stress. One of my safe places is the library where I live its so beautiful and has a lot of nooks and places to curl up and write or just think or read.
Sounds like you need this too. What about your family. I dont know you. But please do not hurt yourself you are so worth being a part of this world you were created to love someone or help someone or show someone how important they are to someone.
God loves you and peace and joy be with you today no matter how bad your heart is hurting you will have better days.
2006-12-12 05:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by An American in Ireland 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first the obvious question is what would you accomplish by it?
Sympathy? Possibly but at a significant cost in what others think about YOU. No one is going to blame your BF if YOU go out and hack away on your body.
Attention: Sure.. someone will help you heal. But you can get attention in lots of more constructive ways.
Self abuse: Hey! sounds like you already have plenty of that.. Want more? Go read the US Tax code.
In short, its a pretty stupid way to react that solves virtually nothing and only makes more problems (which, in theory, others can now get angry over and share your misery)..definately NOT a good place to 'be'.
Why not take all that anger and hurt and do something good with it. (Yeah this sounds dumb I know but bear with me)...
When I get pissed I go out and work on something.. Fix my car, build something, walk down to the stores and get a cup (about a 5 mile walk). When I am done I have converted the anger into something productive and maybe useful. PLUS I have had time to consider and refute or confirm my anger.
Upshot: Find something GOOD to do. No arguement is worth winning so badly that you hurt others.
ok.. now I am stepping down and putting my soapbox back in the corner.
(PS.. Merry Christmas)
2006-12-12 05:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by ca_surveyor 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got through this by a number of ways
~ Starve yourself from any kind of sharp blades or any utensils used in self harming
~ Whatever triggers this, get past it, block it out, completely!
~ Find some motivation and new aspect to focus on in your life.
~ Find someone to confide in about it and hear what they have to say. Someone you can trust!
~ Hear what others think about self harming.. sometimes it can be a really big reality check!\
This all helped me alot, with all these things i eventually got through it, just need the right frame of mind x
2006-12-12 09:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by hl22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry im a bit late.
i hope you managed. if you still feel like it though you should speak to someone. a teacher, close friend or even better a counselor. i self-harm but am seeing a physcologist. i promise you, you can stop if you want. but you'll probably need help. if you have a lot of self determination go for it alone...it's hard though. if you're going to do it alone try googling: stopping self harm. it's got some good sites out there.
good luck.
email me if you want. i know how you feel.
xx
2006-12-13 03:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by xxx_devil_from_hell_xxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do it, so walk away before you can, even if it`s bad out side get away from where you are for 10 Min's at least, walk and think what you can do to harm yourself when you get back. It`s hard not to hurt but the need to most of the time is when we make ourselves do it is that its only escape from pressure, When you think you can talk to your G.P you will, which along with therapy eventually you can have control and understanding, the best tip i have
2006-12-12 05:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by dinaro5 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any god who would make people sexual beings and then punish them for it isn't worth worshipping. There's nothing wrong with you. You aren't damaged and don't need fixing. You are a valuable being, perfectly flawed, and deserve to be loved AS YOU ARE, not upgrade required. You have value in the universe, as much value as everyone and anyone who tells you differently is wrong and not worth listening to. Humans are social animals and our sexuality exists on a continuum with all sorts of variations, all of them "normal". Unless you mean to harm another or take advantage of someone that can't defend themselves, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
2016-05-23 00:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it is like to self harm. I did it for 6 years but i have also not done it for 6 months. I would advise for you to sit down and take deep breaths, don't worry about it and try and listen to up beat music to cheer yourself up. Perhaps give one of your friend a ring and just scream down the phone. Anything to take your mind it off it. Good luck!
2006-12-12 06:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by passport_to_heaven1210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋