My sons that are five, father was murdered. It will be a month on Thursday. I can't get this feeling out my head. You see, his sister and mother didn't get along with me. And I'm feeling a bit upset over this situation. My sons father has a baby boy that is 6 months old. At his furneral, his mom and sister was holding and comforting the baby as well as his new baby momma. I felt a little of jelousy because when my sons were 6 months they didn't even come around. I felt so hurt by seeing that. I felt like leaving the furneral because of them comforting her but I'm the mother of his first born sons. Now that he's dead, it's like they want to come around. What should I do? How can i get over this jelousy feeling?
2006-12-12 05:05:16 · 10 answers · asked by B.A.P.S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let them be around the kids, they are their family as well, and could make them feel in a way closer to their dad...
2006-12-12 05:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS A HARD SITUATION, I dont know really what to say except that for your sons well being and to do the right thing just try to overcome than sometimes something is better than nothing so I can understand your hurt feeling but now try to overcome it and go on let them visit for your son he lost his father already so let him have them at least you will be ok...and your probably not the only one she probably feels the same why they are around you....so good luck!!
2006-12-12 13:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mamiinkcmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the bad feelings go.
Let the family have contact so your children can hear
and learn more about their Father from his family.
I was telling a friend today what my grown
Nephew was like as a small boy. She laughed. :-)
The memories.
2006-12-12 13:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your children,s father relatives and you sons should not be denied their family their father is gone they have a grandmother and aunt that wants to get to know them, forget about the past its time for healing and you want your sons to be happy.
2006-12-12 13:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probably realized that your kids are living extensions of thier father so they want to be close to what they have left of him,but that doesn't change the way you were disrespected.My mother-in-law wouldn't let anyone tell my dying father-in-law that I was even pregnate and at the funeral she stayed with my husbands 1st wife all the time and even took her home afterwards to stay alnight . needless to say 20 yrs later we still aren't close.
2006-12-12 13:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by rcdc_wva. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are feeling guilty for the time that they have wasted. Their trying to comfort their conscience by interaction through their grandsons. Its really sad and pathetic but its all they have now besides regret.
2006-12-12 13:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be so much better if you could tell them sincerely how you were feeling. at least try to talk to someone about it, so you have an emotional outlet. however, if talking to them is not an option, then all you can do is at least save the relationship of your children with their grandmother and aunt. they at least deserve that, if not with you. try to get them to see at least that much.
2006-12-12 13:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal what you feel.
do not worry time will help you and that is the only thing you can trust that will help.
just try to enjoy your son
2006-12-12 13:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is right in your heart. you do not want to step down to their level. You need to be the bigger person. Good luck!!!
2006-12-12 13:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let be around
2006-12-12 13:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Illeagal Alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋