I am having a hard time with this. Should I lie to my daughter and tell her there is a Santa? I know when I found out I been lied to by everyone I knew and was scammed by everyone it made me not trust anything in life. I really think learning there was no Santa and that I was lied to by everyone I loved for 7 years of my life or so really messed my outlook on life up.
Is it better for a child to have something made up to believe in even though we are lying and instead of teaching morals ect we are teaching out kids to lie.
Or would it be better to always be truthful to a child and let them learn the life lesson that you have to work hard for everything you get. Nothing is free and that lying is not right to do no matter what and you can trust your parents no matter what.
Also Another point. We are celebrating the birth of Christ by breaking a commandment. Thou shall not lie.
Sounds pretty messed up on many parts.
2006-12-12 05:01:38 · 38 answers · asked by pws8us 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
But you are not lying! Aren't YOU Santa when you put the gifts under the tree?
Santa gives children hope, and something to laugh about when they wake up on Christmas morning. It makes a child so much happier if he thinks the presents are coming from Santa than their parents. Let your kids have their fun, I wasn't upset when I found out Santa wasn't real, I was just happy to have gotten all of those presents.
2006-12-12 05:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by i hate hippies but love my Jesus 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am suspicious you might have better believe disorders than simply Santa. Children consider plenty of matters which can be totally illogical. Its aspect of being a little one. Letting move of your fantasies or no less than spotting the change among myth and fact is aspect of developing up. Some of my fondest adolescence recollections core round Christmas and the anticipation of Santa. I consider I was once 6 or 7 whilst I eventually admitted I new there was once now not a Santa, however I do not don't forget feeling betray. Rather I don't forget feeling conceited that I now knew probably the most grownup "secrets and techniques". (I was once certain there have been plenty extra. BTW why do females normally move to the toilet in businesses? I nonetheless have not figured that one out.) On the opposite hand, I additionally don't consider there's any damage in being totally fair approximately dilemma. Obviously, many cultures don't rejoice Christmas or have Santa, and so much of the ones children do exactly first-rate.
2016-09-03 07:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by darland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children should be aloud to be children and not worry about adult things until they r old enough to understand and when it comes to Santa it's about a belief and if you believe in santa or if there was a santa it's a great thing.I think it would be very dissapointing to a child to find out there is no sant.I have 2 children 1 eight yrs and 1 five yrsold and they came to me and asked if there was really a santa cuz the kids in the area told them there wasn't and i told them that i have never seen him myself but i believe there was once a santa.Now i also told them that myself as well as many others work very hard for the big guy and help provide for him.Why spoil something just so u don't need to buy gifts.As long as you make sure u teach the real reason for x-mas and don't have her beleive that x-mas is all about giving and recieving gifts that it's a celebration of a birth .then i would say no don't tell cuz that would be very dissapointing to her.Other then u i have never heard of a child ever thinking that they could not trust just because they where lied to about santa infact the people around here where i live have told there children because they just don't want to spend money on there child and let someone else take the thx.It's sad really.U don't have to lie.They don't understand things as well as an adult and there r way of wording things that they would know that there was once a santa and to still believe .There is know reason to get right into everything like there is know santa it's me that buys the gifts.to me thats just a way to save money.People need to know the reason for the special day and people should not take away there childhood and try to get them to understand something they don't need to deal with as a child.I did not lie to mine but i didn't tell them that it was me who bought gifts not santa.I just said that I think there was a santa at one time and i think they believe there is still cuz that was the end of it and we started talking about how it was a birth on that day and why we celebrate
2006-12-12 05:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is humanly impossible for one person to deliver billions of presents in less than 12 hours world wide.
If he does exist, then he must have a lot people helping him out, and I'm sure you know who they are.
A FEW years ago the assistant managing editor of the U.S. Catholic magazine wrote:
“Whereas the true lesson of Christmas is a message of divine mercy and sacrifice, Santa is the front man for greedy corporations, and the tutor in greed for millions of American children. He is the saint of gimme. He has become a total sellout to materialism and greed. He is in the pay of the big toy manufacturers and department stores. A greedy child is never appeased. A spoiled child appreciates nothing. An overindulged child is convinced that the major figure of Christmas is not Christ, but himself.”
This editor thought that Santa should have been left at the North Pole.
Our children, from and early age, knew, and were told there was no such person as Santa Claus, we never had a problem with them. We did not set one day out of the year to give presents to our children, it could be any day, week, or month.
2006-12-12 09:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by BJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> I know when I found out I been lied to by everyone I knew and was scammed by everyone it made me not trust anything in life. I really think learning there was no Santa and that I was lied to by everyone I loved for 7 years of my life or so really messed my outlook on life up.
Actually, I think that's the most valuable lesson of all - just because people insist something is true, and the fact there's MANY people saying it's true, is not sufficient to prove something is true. What could be a better advocate for critical thinking then that scenario is?
2006-12-12 05:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have a hard time too... So I will express a number of opinions here, in the hopes that my rambling will help you...
I like the idea of pretending not to know for sure and encouraging her to find out. That's only telling a "white" lie and it teaches a valuable life lesson without sacrificing the fun of childhood.
On the flipside, kids all around the world grow up without Santa, and they don't sit there and lament the loss of their childhood. However, you live in a culture that is very pro-Santa (even news stations and NORAD pretend to "track" him on Christmas Eve).
Maybe you should just tell her it's an imagination-game that everyone decides to play around the holidays. I don't think your child will be heartbroken if they understand it as a game that everyone agrees to play. They get to enjoy the fun of Christmas, and never actually have the heartbreak of finding out it ain't literally true.
Good luck with that.
2006-12-12 05:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree, this is a difficult thing.
I think I would tell them the truth about the real Santa. That he did exist and what he did for people. Let them know we keep the spirit of him alive by giving gifts as he would. However as Christians we celebrate the birth of Jesus. The day of Jesus birth is reason enough to celebrate. Don;t give Santa credit for things purchased with your hard earned money.
We always got 3 gifts as the 3 wise men brought those gifts to Jesus.
Or you could do your by setting a limit per child.
I agree the important thing is not Santa it is Jesus!
2006-12-12 05:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW. You must have a hard time making decisions everyday if you need to be this analytical about Santa. Its tradition. We tell our kids about Santa and then they tell their kids and so on. And when the day comes that we have to come clean about Santa it becomes a memory for our children and then when their children find out they say " I remember the day I found out" it's good stuff. It is family. Yes you are correct in the fact that it is the birth of Christ. However have you not taught your children about the Easter bunny and the tooth fairy or the headless horseman MY GOD MAN. are you not allowing your children to have an imagination or fantasy. Positive reinforcement. Be good or no presents Get good grades or Santa will skip your house. It's about positive up bringing and blind faith. How do expect your children to believe in god and these commandments that you hold so high with no proof. BLIND FAITH. My parents still lie to me about Santa and I am 31 years old. I have a seven year old and he told me this year that Santa wasn't real. I am not sure how to react if he's ready not to believe but then he wrote Santa a letter and at the bottom he wrote I am sorry i said you were not real. Don't skip my house please. It's good for kids to have this stuff. It makes their heart better.
2006-12-12 05:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by emtjen 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow....who would have thought that something like Santa Claus would cause so much trauma in your life!!!
I'm thinking you are blowing this WAY out of proportion.
Santa Claus is a fictional character. You teach your child to be good during the year so that they will receive rewards for their behavior from Santa (that, my friend, is a moral lesson).
Would you rather get nasty calls from parents when your child tells everyone that Santa isn't real?!?! Why ruin it for the hundreds of kids in your child's school that DO believe in Santa, simply because you had a "bad" experience growing up?
I myself am not a Christian, but I love the idea of Santa. I grew up in a non-religious home, but I still laid out cookies and milk for Santa, wrote him letters, etc. I found out there was no Santa when I recognized my mom's writing on a "letter from Santa".
When children are intelligent and clever enough to discover there is no Santa, they are more than likely able to deal with the fact, rather then let it bother them for 20+ years.
I say, let your kids celebrate Christmas with Santa Claus. Don't take the fun out of their holiday!
Oh, and please see a therapist to work out your problems with your family "lying" to you for 7 years....that much anger bottled up for that long can be disastrous.
2006-12-12 05:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Heck if I know! 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I teach my children the difference between real and fantasy. I do believe fantasy is important for children. Like Toy Story and Shriek and the like.
I teach them that Jesus Christ is real and Santa Claus is fantasy. Nothing wrong with Santa Claus if the child knows the truth. Just another made up character like many others.
The danger is when children are taught that Santa is real. Just like Jesus is real. So when they find out you've been lying to them about Santa, they also assume Jesus isn't true.
Let your children have fantasy, just teach them the difference between fantasy and reality. Your children will thank you later on down the road.
2006-12-12 05:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by mustangsilver456 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋