I love guys and they love me. I have been toldby multiple guy friends its the bubbling personality, gorgeous looks, wild about life attitude and the way I'm easy to talk to that makes any guy feel comfortable around me. I'm 16, a junior in high school and the first guy to ask me out was to the Homecoming Dance this year and after he didn't get the hook-up he wanted, he went back to his ex and we're just friends. It's not that I don't try to get the guys I like to like me back, it's just innocent flirting always turns into a friendship and in a couple weeks HE's asking me for advice with the girl he likes. How can I keep the good image, but get a BOYFRIEND out of it for once instead of just a friend who happens to be a BOY?
2006-12-12 04:51:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you have more value as a friend.
2006-12-12 04:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is the hard part. Of course you wouldn't want to give up ALL your "friendships" that you currently have (which you'd probably have to if you "got a boyfriend"), as you do enjoy them for what they are. Take it from someone who's been there: the girl-boy friendships that you develop now can actually be more enlightening, honest and ultimately fulfilling than an actual "serious" relationship, mostly because you're side-stepping the "heavy" issues, i.e., the drama, the breakups, etc. I know that I wanted the same thing, as I ended up having a myriad of "friendships" but no girlfriend. But. I did learn a ton about just sharing space, talking about problems and compromise. And I had a lot of fun in the process. So I guess that's my advice: enjoy all these great friendships for now, because they are the ones that will last over time.
2006-12-12 13:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by James O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a matter of how you view yourself. Our own view of ourselves reflects out to everyone that we meet. If you have it in your mind that a certain boy that you have picked out is going to be your boyfriend and you truly feel it in your heart, then you will find one. But here is they key warning in this message. If you are going after the pretty boys who know how pretty they are, you will get used and treated wrong. If you go after some one who you like because he is a good person, you will be much better off. There are probably many guys who know you who think that you are out of their league. Some of which you might feel like you are not good enough for. So keep your eyes open and realize that if you think that you will never get a boyfriend, you will act in such a way that will keep you single.
Another idea for you is to let that guy you like know that you do like him, but then pull away and make him chase you a little bit. Guys like a challenge, and hard to get is fun (just make sure that he realizes that he does have a chance)
Also if you really want to accelerate the process, ask they guy out to a social event with you and your friends, a movie, a day at a park, whatever. Give yourself a chance to hang with him outside of school and see how you react to each other.
If there is chemistry you will know it.
just remember, don't chase the boys. This gets you used and dumped.
Above all don't ever loose respect for yourself over a boy. It is not worth it.
2006-12-12 13:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by jdm6235 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking one of you guy friends and see what they think. Sometimes innocent flirting is not a big enough hint. If you are brave and have a junior prom then ask a crush if he would like to go to prom with you. I had a tons a guy friend in high school but not to many of them made good boyfriends. Good luck girl hope you get that boyfriend that you want. Keep your head up.
2006-12-12 13:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by odd622 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know if I am right, but I am going to shoot from the hip with personal experience from a guy. You seem like the kind of girl that all guys can get along with. The problem may be that there are TOO MANY guys in your life. Oftentimes, guys will not go for a girl that is really flirty. This could be for two reasons. For one reason, a guy could see that she has a lot of guys she is good friends with. Immediately, he says in his mind:
1) Does she even want a boyfriend?
2) What makes me any better than her 50 million other guy friends?
I know it is not fair, but that is the way things are. Secondly, guys may see you as really flirty, and as a result, they do not take your flirtations seriously. This is a major mistake that this one girl I know makes. She tried to get me to like her by being extremely flirty, but I noticed she was the same way with her guy friends, and with every guy for that matter. Very quickly I took note of this and thought that she does not like me. I immediately threw away all thoughts of romance, and I put her in friend mode.
I could be wrong, but I think you need to learn to be more exclusive with your flirtations. Only flirt with one or two in your life at a time. Let them see that you are not flirting with every guy under the sun. Secondly, try getting them involved in your life. For instance, ask them to do a favor, or hang out with a guy more at romantic type places. Go to dinner with him randomly, or just hang out and study after school. Do something that shows him that he is special in your life. He will take notice and cast you in the girlfriend category. Problem solved then!
Hope that helps, but it is the honest guy's perspective!
2006-12-12 12:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety first be thankful that you can be considered as a friend. Don't want it so much and it will come to you. You put out what you feel inside so if you put out the fact that you want to have a bf so bad then you will come off desperate. You understand what I am saying? Focus on you and your schooling and the right one will come along.
2006-12-12 12:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by trf_islandkandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a tough frustrating situation! that happened to me a lot in high school too, it wasnt until the beginning of my junior year that I realized this guy who had liked me for years was actually who I wanted to be with and now we have been togehter for over three years, some one will come along for you who is perfect, just keep your patience and you'll get a good guy who really cares about you.
2006-12-12 12:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by aly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried asking the guys out? It works 4 me all the time.
2006-12-12 12:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's so special about the 'good image'? Live a little and have some fun, fun fun until your daddy take your T-Bird away ..
2006-12-12 12:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by blueyedimpledguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to act a little bit hot .. make guys stand up there things then they will never take u just as a friend
2006-12-12 12:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A boy's hard on has no conscious. Just be a dic.. tease until your old enough..And have fun.
2006-12-12 13:02:57 · answer #11 · answered by zzband.taliesin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋