This is not a healthy relationship. We have been involved for 3 years. It hurts me to say goodbye. But I have to do it.
2006-12-12 04:40:53 · 23 answers · asked by inhizmightyhandz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you are feeling because I had to do the same thing after many years too. I hurts a lot to have to say good bye. Knowing you have an unhealthy relationship you are doing the right thing. It is going to be a hard long road but the sooner you do this the sooner the healing process can begin and you will be on the road to a better and happier life. I don't think anyone can tell you how to do this or what to say. It has to come from within you with compassion and from the heart. Telling your spouse how you feel and how long you have been feeling the way you have been is a good start. I don't know what makes your relationship unhealthy but if you have tried to work it out and nothing seems to be working then maybe that's what needs to be said. Stay strong. You will always have the wonderful memories to Cherish and a special place for this person in your heart but keep moving forward and try not to look back. Looking back will hold you back and keep you in limbo. I wish you the best......From some one who knows!
2006-12-12 05:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can write a letter saying all your feelings and also thanking them for being a part of your life in the last 3 years. If you feel it, you can say that your friendship door is open. Just do it. At least express yourself about the relationship. It hurts but you'd want a good closure for both of you.
2006-12-12 12:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat as you were. It's hard but you realized that this person is no good for you. I finally woke up on my 30th birthday and I thought to myself that he was no good for me and I had to make a decision about my life, even tho I still loved him. I talked to him and pretty much told him that I had to leave him. It hurt like hell but I knew I had made the right choice. Be strong and in the end you'll be alright.
2006-12-12 12:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberley W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you enjoy your life you will be fine. Go out with Friends, go to movies, visit family... Keep yourself busy and whatever you do don't talk about the breakup constantly. If it's amicable you'll be able to be friends again once you've moved on. Trying to be friends before it's over would probably make the split too hard.
Good Luck!
2006-12-12 12:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by blackcaligirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean when you say its not a healthy relationship i use to go threw that all the time some kind of way you are going to have to break the cycle and let go I know its easier said then done. But for your own sanity you must let it go.
2006-12-12 12:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by CHERISH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the endurance of the relationship hurts, there should be no second thought whether or not to get out or even how, unless you enjoy being hurt. If you do, you need to see a family counselor.
2006-12-12 12:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do.. so do it ...
the longer you wait the harder it will be!
the hardest thing is the right thing
it will NOT BE EASY sorry i wish it were! but it's hard when peeps emotions come into play!
just wait untill your both not mad or upset and just say hey babe we need to talk!
and say what you need to say!
let it out and just say I did love you but now i feel we have grown apart!
we don't communicate like we should
I don't trust you or you don't trust me
and i don't have passion or you don't have passion for me!
with trust, communication, and passion being the key elements for a healthy relationship.. i feel i'm wasteing my time! and I feel like i'm wasting your time! so even thought this is hard for me we need to go on with our lifes with out eachother!
get your stuff and head out the door!
No it's not going to be easy at least not the first 5 minutes and builidng the guts to start the talk!
But you can do it!
Best of luck!
2006-12-12 12:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this relationship is not heathy, you are making the right decision.
If you feel you have to say goodbye, you need to follow your heart.
Goodbye's are never easy.
2006-12-12 12:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one of the hardest things to do. But you have to do it, especailly if it is not a healthy relationship. Sometimes you have to be apart from each other once in awhile to see it this was really the one. But you have to do what you feel is right.
2006-12-12 12:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by Andie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i was in a relationship for four years and it wasnt the best relationship to be in. it hurts so much to say goodbye and if you truley loved that person i dont know if you will ever get over them i sure havent goten over the love of my life and i dont think i ever will...
2006-12-12 12:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by cockbite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋