if so what do you think of women who make this choice. i went out on a date with a really great guy. Things seem to be going pretty well but i don't know how to break it to him that i'm saving my self for marriage. its only been three weeks, but lately when ever we're together things start to get pretty hot! i don't want to be a tease but at the same time i don't want to ruin what we have. i'm 22 and have never had a boyfriend or sex.
2006-12-12 04:40:12 · 17 answers · asked by ponypuffgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To save yourself for marriage is great and you should be proud of yourself but you should not give up your virginity for what someone else desperately wants..... Keep sex for after marriage....
Now as for the boyfriend, he should understand this and respect your wishes..But it would be frustrating... There are other means (other then having sex) that you can use to satisfy him and still remain true to your beliefs...
2006-12-12 04:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off one thing that is for sure is that a real man that loves you for you and cares for you will respect the choices you make no matter what they are thats if he is this really great guy as you say he is then he should understand and respect that. I think of women that feel that way as very strong minded and i respect them very much i am the same age as you and lost my virginity at a early age and honestly regret it sometimes but once its gone its too late so in your case this should not ruin ur relationship unless thats all he wants this is actually good in a way cuz now you will know the real reason he likes you and is with you but if he is a jerk like mr playa that said next then its better you know now then more down the line when you are ready to give yourself to him and love him. My advice to you is to stay strong and remember if he realllly likes you then he will respect your decision good luck =)
2006-12-12 04:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be honest with him. If he likes you and wants to be with you, he will wait. If he walks away, you will know he was there for the sex only. It is admirable to wait for marriage and something you should be proud you were able to save. Very few people in this world are willing to wait. If you are going to continue a relationship with this guy, you two will have to sit down and set boundaries. You will have to tell him what you are and aren't willing to do. You need to tell him before the next HOT session.
2006-12-12 04:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not a turnoff in any respect to the final woman. the form of woman which you may prefer to marry will circulate alongside with what you opt for. i'm in my 20s and arranged for marriage. this is not as undemanding decision via any ability yet i know that it is the final decision. I even have been in relationships that have ended because of the fact of my decision yet i know that I could placed God first. while you're putting God first then each thing else will fall into place. Having a dedication like this might keep you out of the incorrect courting. in case you date females with an identical non secular ideals it fairly is basically not a marvel to them and optimistically they like to attend besides. that's not the norm for society even though if it will make your marriage and courting with God extra suitable. wish this helps!
2016-12-11 07:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by casco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats awesome that you're saving it for marriage!!
If he doesnt respect that, then he's a loser. If you haven't already, try to talk to him about it, tell him how much this means to you, and that you're serious about saving it. I had a bf once who would always pressure me to do things I didnt want to do. So i didnt do it and got rid of him. Having someone like that really brings you down and you often give in. But if you really don't want to end it with him, I would really talk about it with him.
Hope it goes well!! :)
2006-12-12 04:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend waited until her wedding night...she was 23 (26 now) and in the same spot as you...never had sex or a boyfriend. She found her perfect guy who was willing to wait and you will too. Best of luck and never settle!
2006-12-12 04:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE men want to have sex and in many ways might be dissapointed but this should have nothing to do with your decision. Do what you feel comfortable doing but make sure that you are being up front and honest with him from the start.
2006-12-12 04:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not the men who respect their mates ...The ultimate word is RESPECT. If he really anticipates a future with you then he shouldn't have a problem with that, but if he doesn't , the way you can tell is to ask him this question, "What are your plans for this relationship in the future." Then you will see what he's made of and what he really thinks of you...
2006-12-12 04:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to tell him sooner or later don't wait too long and i think most men will have a problem with waiting until marriage unless they are a Mormon, anyway its your choice and you should stick to your believes.
2006-12-12 05:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how you feel. If he really cares about you then he will respect your decision. You have to be true to yourself and your beliefs. You should never do something that you are not ready for.
2006-12-12 04:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by triste_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋