We've been dating for a over a month, and in the beginning it was great, first 2 weeks, a blast, compliments left and right, laughs, smiles, kisses, great sex, you name it. Now, its come to a point where its died down, and its only been a month!?! Strange right? Its getting to a point where im not comfortable and shes always going out drinking with her friends, not inviting me, and weve had a few minor altercations, but nothing serious. anyways, i just don't feel it anymore, and i dont feel shes not excited about having me anymore, even though i stayed with her last night, but we havent had sex since sat morning and even that was kinda awkward...im contimplating a break up, but not sure how to do it or if i feel like i should....and the thing is, i know i could find someone better out there for me, but sometimes she just feels right and i dont wanna break another heart...theres just not enough sex to be honest...and im very sexual...im just confused all in all
2006-12-12 04:37:11 · 19 answers · asked by chrisj7682 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If sex is all you want, get a hooker. You are obviously not succeeding in what it takes to have a relationship. You want the laughs, smiles, kisses and sex..... but what are you bringing to the table?
I suggest you do break up with her until you understand what a relationship means, and what a woman needs to want to have sex with someone.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-12 04:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have had this problem for YEARS!
When you get SO head over heals and " RUSH " things this happens. You need to GO SO VERY SLOW if you really like the girl.
When you go from meeting, dating, drinking, sex, to nothing in a month you have WENT TOO FAST!
Trust me, I have had 24 hour relationships and i have had 5 years relationships and when you RUSH and do all the things the first month you are DOOMED!!!!
I was MADLY in love with this girl i meet. We had sex the 2 night we meet. She said it would re leave the aquardness in out relationship. AND IT DID but then it just went down hill. We did not really date we just like saw each other EVERY DAY. You cant MISS someone if you see them every day, You cant Yern to be next to them and miss them.
Just move on now man. It will be good for you and her. Plus you get to tag something new. thats always good.
Just put another mark in your bed post and move on.
2006-12-12 12:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by remailer000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its over man, theres nothing to think about. but, if you want the spark back, do this:
Act indiferent. Act like you ve already broke up (without other girls). Go party, go out with friends, have fun and dont call her!
If she doesnt do a thing, well, its over. If she starts to call you, or to miss you, then attraction is working on. U can even avoid sex with her. Why? cause girls want what they dont get and get bored of what the see too much.
Hope it works for you
2006-12-12 12:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's not ready for a serious relationship right now. I would just move on and find someone better. It's not like you've been together for years! It's only been a month or so and it already going downhill..... it's not worth the stress of it all.
Just end it. You'll be way better of without her
2006-12-12 12:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by misschaos489 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit her down and let her know exactly what you want out of your relationship. If you're not ready to fall in love, let her know. You're not looking for that. What you're looking for is a partner who you can satisfy and who can satisfy your needs as well. Let her know you don't want to see other women, because it's just not healthy to do that, and you respect her too much to do that to her. However, your needs are not being met. "What is it ________ (her name) that I'm not doing for you or giving you? What do you want from me? What do you want out of this relationship?"
Are you talking to her often? Do you know her meaning of life? Are you focused on your carreer? Is she focused on hers? Do you share your thoughts of wordly events? Do you agree on what a healthy relationship is? These are all the things you should ask yourself. This will let you know if she in fact is what you are looking for.
If it's just sex. So you 100% of the time, try pleasing her first, before you get your nut? Or do you not really give a crap if she gets off or not? Me? My woman has to get hers first. Each and every time. That way I know I'm doing my job there and it makes me feel stronger in bed.
2006-12-12 12:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too much of a horn dog. Think with ur brain not ur member... if you love her talk to her and if all u want is sex then leave her but i can tell you this... if i was her and u left me for more sex when you are probably doing something wrong... then i'd snap on you! I do not snap at Matt but i sometimes et him snap on me b/c he's a typical guy.... but he keeps snappin' and he won't have anything to snap with just like if u left her for more sex or so u say.. then she'd snap at u and tell u what she thinks about u whether or not u like it! trust me!
2006-12-12 12:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lil' Miss Thing aka Crista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy it's time to move on. Perhaps you should try talking to her just to get her side of it. Maybe the sex isn't that great for her, maybe ask what she would like done to her. Maybe she's already moved on and doesn't know how to tell you.
2006-12-12 12:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no ! break it off now before hearts are broken!
if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with her then break it off! or keep giving her false hope that one day she will get a ring!
but to be honest the passion seem to die down very quickly i think you both should just be friends wiht benifits!
2006-12-12 12:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe the newness has worn off and it was just infactuation on her part and she does not know how to tell you that she just wants to be friends. You should really talk to her about it calmly or just break it off.
2006-12-12 12:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by trf_islandkandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to spice things up, It was wonderful in the beginning but later on you must have slowed down and she got bored, so she went else where to have a good time, you jus need to sit and have a personal conversation with her.
2006-12-12 12:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by lo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋