My ex gf wants to come see her cat that she left with me (When she left me/went back home to another state and another school). When she left, she gave me her cat bc her dad won't let her have it bc her lil sis and lil bro are allergic to cats. I don't really want to see her AT ALL. I don't know. Have you ever seen "The Notebook"?? We are like Noah and Allie in there. Her dad is a rich neurosurgeon and I am broke and bus tables. Her mom called me white trash bc my family doesn't have any money although her dad said I was a good guy but not "their type." She isn't with anyone right now and neither am I, but I really don't want to even be her friend. It's just too hard bc I really did have feelings for her, but she never told me how her mom hated me for not being rich until like a few months ago. I knew they would've disapproved bc she told me that when we were together but I never got to meet them. I broke up with her last Xmas and it has been a yr. What should I do? I don't know
2006-12-12 04:35:03 · 12 answers · asked by Trojan8408 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really made me mad bc I am going to grad school to be a Dr. and I am in a few honor societies. Its just I didn't have a dad and my mom doesn't make enough for me to have a BMW for hanging out and a Durango for school
2006-12-12 04:48:30 · update #1
Well I do not think you are obligated to let her see her cat. Its your cat now. So if you don't want to, then don't. And kudos for not letting your emotions rule your life. Just because her parents are jerks, doesn't mean the relationship would not have worked, but it doesn't sound like it would have worked with HER because it sounds like she is alot like her parents. If she was a real woman she would tell her parents to take a flying leap. If you find someone good, then their economic background shouldn't be important, and in my opinion, you are more deserving of the respect anyway. You actually WORK for a living, she is living off mommy and daddy and probably will never be the kind of girl who would have her man's back over her parents, so better that you realize all this now. Good for you! And I hope you find someone next time who appreciates the right things in a man and not just how big his family's bank account is.
2006-12-12 04:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance and let her see the cat. Maybe she wants more, and you could be missing out on true love. Isn't it her decision whether or not she wants to be with a poor bus-boy and truly in love? Why did you make that decision for her? Take a leap of faith...
2006-12-12 04:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let her see the cat but maybe you can arrange for a friend to be at your house when she comes, that way you don't have to deal with her and she can see the cat. Or you can drop it off somewhere and then pick up the cat later
2006-12-12 04:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by triste_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ler her come over and just see what will happen becouse if you rember in the end of the note book they are married and have kids and grand kids and i have been there i still have feelings for my ex and we still see each other and we have fallen in love again but we both have new relationship and we whant out but we are in them to deep and i thank tha yall should try it again becouse i am not rich but he was and we were fine .i thank love is more important in life then what a mother said becouse they dont always get what they want.
2006-12-12 04:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if she wants to continue to see the cat, then she should give it to friends that she can visit. sounds to me like maybe its you she really wants to see. but until she grows up enough to put her parents straight and make her own choices--i wouldnt touch her with a 10 foot pole. tell her if she wants to see the cat, she'll have to take it out of your place and put it with some people who her parents approve of her associating with. you're really much better off without this kind of snobbery in your life. good riddance to the whole damn lot of them....including the cat!
2006-12-12 04:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by mickey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't see her because she really doesn't care from what I read and if she did she would have stood up for you and that not the reason she wants to come over she wants to see you and does not know how to say it so if you don't want to see her then don't see her its the best if you don't so you don't get hurt ya know im going through that rite now myself and its better to stay away
2006-12-12 04:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lil' leah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you should tell her to stay away. You guys are finished and that's that. She gave you that cat and she just needs to move on. Her parents on the other hand are jerks. Just because you don't have money doesn't mean that you can't make their daughter happy. Money isn't everything.
2006-12-12 04:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her you just don't want to see her. And if she cared about the poor cat to begin with, she could have taken it with her and gotten her own place instead of running home to mommy and daddy.
2006-12-12 04:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's the cat she wants to see. Go with having a friend there when she comes and you be scarce.
2006-12-12 04:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her come over. See what she has to say. The whole cat thing is extremely corny. She wants to see you.
2006-12-12 04:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by that redheaded chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋