I have a pretty girl friend, and we have been together for 8 months.
We had normal sex before. But about two months ago, I found that my girl friend liked to do some abnormal things on me during the “pregame”. She bound me with a strong rope, forced me to lick her toes, put silk socks in my mouth, whipped me with a belt, and cut my pubes. I can accept the things I mentioned above. Because I love her. It's okay. But the last time we had sex, she peed on my face…
I told her about this kind of thing . . .and she said she liked the things she did . . .
Well, it's alright. I just worry about my girl friend. I don't know whether or not she will suffer from mental illness in the future…
Do you guys have the same experiences before?
Is it normal?
2006-12-12 04:07:23 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most of this sounds like two people having fun in their sex life. As long as you are both enjoying it you are fine. The only problem is if one of you goes too far and the other one doesn't like it.
As for normal, that is for you to decide. I really doubt she will suffer any mental illness over a few consensual sex acts; so relax about that.
2006-12-12 04:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ew.. she peed on your face? Wow, you're waaaaaay more tolerant of weirdness than I could be! Seriously though, it's great that you're willing to experiment with her because you love her, but at the same time, if she's doing anything you really don't like (the peeing comes to mind) you need to tell her. A relationship is compromise, and no matter how freaky she likes sex to be, she needs to take your turn ons and turn offs into consideration too. About the mental illness part.. chances are she's just someone who gets turned on by things that are different then most.. that doesn't make her crazy.. just makes it a little bit harder to find a balance in the bedroom. Good luck!
2006-12-12 04:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Skyler789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... What concerns me is the "hair pulling" and "Daddy is going to give it to you now". The proper term of what's going on now is called "S&M". Slave /Master or it can mean something worse, Sadist / Masochist. That can be painful in more ways than one. How does he treat you out of the bedroom? It would be helpful if there are no barriers in the way that could hinder your ability to have a honest talk with him about this ...and what you're comfortable with & what you're not. and that would be the "Daddy" thing. I'm hoping this is just a "Bedroom Thing" and it doesn't become an abusive situation outside of the bedroom. I would suggest having a talk with him, outside of the bedroom with what is bothering you. It could be just a game that's being kept only in the bedroom. Talking with him about this would clear up any mis-communication & will also let you know if it's going to get rougher. If it's only a "Bedroom Thing" then you can lay down the boundaries on just how far you'll allow it to go. I hope I've helped.
2016-05-22 23:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend into that. Some people just like to dominate and humiliate. There is obviously some male in her past that she is "punishing" and getting turned on by it. Whether she will always be this way, I don't know. But if you are uncomfortable or don't enjoy it, let her go. Who knows what is next? Cutting you or whips or genital mutilation?
2006-12-12 04:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao you had a golden shower?
sounds like your gfs into kinky stuff S&M and bodnage, she'l prob get you to have a rubber ball strapped in your mouth nxt lol.. maybe she should look into taking the dominatrix career route.
if your really uncomfortable with what shes doing with you, and your limits are being pushed over board then you need to sit down and tell her.. overwise she'l prob progress on to more kinky stuff which might totally change your attitude towards her and ruin your relationship
2006-12-12 04:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
different people are into different things... however if you feel uncomfortable with what is going on then you may not be in a right relationship, maybe you should talk to her about it and see if maybe you two can find a middle ground where she still gets to do the kinky stuff and you don't feel so out of place...
2006-12-12 04:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by RHINOTECHIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
different people have different fetishes but if what she does isnt enjoyable for you then she needs to stop. I think the peeing thing in your face is gross and disrespectful....she went a little overboard there....I would set boundaries for what you are willing and not willing to do. I wouldnt say she has any kind of mental illness but you need to speak up for yourself.
2006-12-12 04:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is so weird! I would never let someone pee on me, although I have heard of this "fetish" before. You guys may want to get on the same page sexually before moving forward. If these things are not things that you enjoy, then you should not have to endure them. Sex should be mutually pleasurable.
2006-12-12 04:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not very normal. Some people are like that, if you can accept that, go hard. If you don't appreciate it (which most people wouldn't) tell her. She sould understand it is a little bit out there!
2006-12-12 04:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is expressing dominance over you. It turns her on to degrade you. If you don't mind then just go along with it and make sure you give her a signal for her to watch for just in case you think she is going too far or you are getting hurt.
2006-12-12 04:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jon O 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋