I have 5 sons-21, 20, 18(twins) & 10. Last Jan. my then 19 yr. old sent went to "boot camp" for the Army National Guard. He came back for good in June. Thankfully, he hasn't been deployed yet. He had weekend training sessions for about 2 months before he went. Now, one of my 18 yr.old (identical) twin sons is leaving for Marine boot camp-he'll be gone for 13 weeks & comes home for 10 days & then I don't know when I'll see home again. Now, I'm a hard-knocks kind of girl. I don't usually get emotional unless someone's on their death bed, but inside, I'm really starting to fall apart. Does he REALLY know what he's in for? Where will he go after the 13 weeks? He has no early training like my other son, can he take it? Will he be hurt & I won't know it? Will he come home completely changed ? Or worse yet, not at all? I'm so afraid of not seeing him, of losing him. How do I stay cheerful for my other kids (including 4-step,2 adult-2young ones) & family when all I want is to cry & be alone?
2006-12-12 03:58:50 · 9 answers · asked by Sandra 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
rkilburn4: Bit rash, aren't you? I have no "Momma's boys " here. Do you have kids, don't you love them? Of course I'm proud of him-My dad was a Marine, step-dad Army vietnam vet-uncle2-husband 10 yr Army, Dessert Storm vet-no apron strings need to be cut here-
2006-12-12 04:42:19 · update #1
Make sure you ask him all the questions you asked yourself.
Tell him you need to hear him say without a doubt that this is what he really wants.
Express your true feeling to your son.
Hark-knocks/Not too emotional kind of girl is how you have had to portray yourself all these years, because this way you sent a clear message that noone can push you around.
Stop keeping the pain inside.
Dont let it consume you.
Whatever feelings you may have on Christmas, it is ok to let down your guard.
It seems like you have been a soldier most of your life, let your family come together with the good and the bad.
Celebrate today because we have no guarantee's for tomorrow's.
I wish both of your son's safe passage.
2006-12-12 05:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Vincent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a military spouse and all I can tell you is if you fall apart while they are gone it becomes harder for the one in training, deployed ect. Boot camp DOES change people. It depends on the person how it changes but dont worry too much about him deploying right away, he still has to get trained in his MOS, get into a unit an do pre mission training. If he gets hurt you WILL be notified by either the military or the Red Cross. I know how hard it is to "put on the happy face" but if you can't you may put them in harms way when deployed because they get worried and destracted. So just do you best and be proud of him for being willing to serve his country and protect our rights.
I hope this helps
2006-12-12 04:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 07:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by darland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You smile through the holidays because you love your son and it is his last Christmas before leaving home. You swallow your fears and let him know that you have confidence in him, because you raised him right.
It is always hard for us to see our children grow up and leave home, but even harder in the world climate when they are military. I know, because when this all started my daughter was in Army basic training. She did 4 years and got out, thankfully not deployed to the Middle East, but it was always a possibility.
I understand your feelings from my own experience.
I gave my daughter a small Bible to carry and in the front wrote something she thought was sappy, but later told me she would open it and read it when she was lonely or sad, and it meant a lot to her. It said:
"Before you were born, I made a vow that I would tell you I loved you at least once every day. You have heard "I love you" from me every day of your life, until now. I won't be with you to say it anymore, but whenever you need to know you are loved, just open this Bible. You will know that you are loved first by God, whose love is everlasting. And you are loved by a mother who holds you in her heart always. God be with you and keep you in his care always. Love, Mom"
She later told me how that almost embarrassing, sentimental passage helped her through.
God be with you and your sons wherever they go when you cannot be with them.
God Bless,
Sue
2006-12-12 04:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just understand that your son is doing what he wants to do and support him. I am sure he feels your pain and it's bad for him when he does leave. Try to keep your feelings hidden and just try to look on the good side. Your son is happy and proud of what he is doing. Your other children will pick up on this negative behavior too so you need to remember that you need to be there for them and need to be a good parent for them also. Keep you head up. Things will be fine. Keep the faith.
2006-12-12 04:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what us MOMS do best; be strong for all your children, put their emotions before your own, because you want him to remain focused as possible and not be worried about you and keep your head up. Knowing that no matter what, you and your children are in the palm of God and he gives us all a peace that passes all understanding!
God Bless You and your Family!
2006-12-12 04:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grit your teeth the same way you did it the first time. My mom is better equipped to answer this question though. She had to tough it out when I decided to join the service at 17. Now I'm 20 and I'll be deploying to Iraq soon...
2006-12-12 04:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your son is 18, if you have doubts, then you have failed him in raising him,if you can not respect his decision, and congratulate him on his decisions, he will go anyway. For your own sanity cut the apron strings and support him and all your children in all their endeavours, It is their life, let them live it
2006-12-12 04:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋