We have God parents for our daughter, all is set! But with the new baby we are having trouble! My husband has a brother (his family is much closer now after losing his other brother earlier this year) and his best friend (best man at our wedding) and we can not decide who to pick for the God father. We were wondering what people thought of having two God fathers instead of the traditional one God mother and one God father. I am not close to many other women anyways (besides the God mother to our oldest) so I don't mind. Has anyone heard of this, is it okay in people's eyes? I know it's basicly just a "title" these days, but it is important to us. Thanks in advance!!
2006-12-12 03:54:24 · 10 answers · asked by angie_laffin927 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Sorry, God parents are important, but not in the traditional roles. We are not having any of the God parents raise our children if something happens to us, we already have that plan intact in our will. Also, we are not choosing based on the most money (which is NUTS). They are both great men, with a lot to offer as far as guidence for a child. But if you met a child and they had two God fathers, I guess I would like to know what people thought of that. Not trying to guilt me into something else.
2006-12-12 04:27:33 · update #1
It depends on which church you are having your baby baptized in. Check with the person who is performing the ceremony to make sure it is permitted. I know the Catholic church does not agree with this but has made exceptions. Good luck!
2006-12-12 03:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must remember there will be other events in the future.
His best friend was already best man. His brother is the lifelong member of the family. A God Parent should be someone who will watch over the God Giftedness of the newly born Christian as a father for life, and help to keep him on the Christian path of life.
If the best man is still the best man for the job, then choose him.
Dear, it's not just a title. The child should look up to the God Parent and see him living the life and sponsoring his development in the faith along with the parents. If neither of these gentlemen fit the bill, try an older relative who really believes in God and the Christian Faith.
2006-12-12 04:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by QueryJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a godparent is a great responsibility and not just something to be handed out willy-nilly or to make the family happy.
Godparents are responsible for the religious upbringing of the child and to make sure that the parents are bringing up said child according to God's will and plan. Traditionally, they are also responsible for the physical care of the child if the parents die and would be the child's legal guardian.
Whomever you chose should be aware of these things and be willing to go the distance to see them out and not just send a card and gift every year.
Of course, if you're just chosing godparents because it's the done thing to do, what does it matter who you chose. You might as well chose the most generous ones with the most money so the kid will get more loot.
2006-12-12 04:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a friend of mine had her baby christianed she had three Godmothers stand at the alter for the ceremony. Her brother is a Godfather to the baby but did not attend the ceremony. I think that it is acceptable for a baby to have more than the two God parents. Especially since the Godparents are supposed to help with the spiritual, educational, and financial health of the child. (At least that is what I understood when the priest was explaining it to my friend's baby's God parents.
2006-12-12 04:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the god parents are traditionally going to be the "new" parents if you both are to pass. So to have two is not a bad idea... tradition has been broken in every situation...you wont be the first or last to pick 2. Who has to know anyway???
If you end up wanting to stick to tradition pick the person that has been there the most when needed.. the MOST accountable one...
2006-12-12 04:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by HH72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What distinction does it make? this is not a criminal designation besides. once the baptizing ingredient is over, the godparents under no circumstances must be in touch back in the newborn's life if she would not ask them to be. everybody who has minor children, even with the truth that, ought to make out a will and designate who ought to easily accept criminal guardianship of their little ones if both father and mom die. it really is conceivable that once the first sibling reaches the age of 18, then that sibling can take over as criminal determine of the more youthful children. it really is continually a reliable concept to ask your selected guardians no matter if or not they are keen to operate determine in the type of your demise. for the reason that no human being want see your will till you're useless, you do not ought to point the godparents in any respect in the want and also you'll under no circumstances ought to face them. in case you do not make out a will and designate who ought to get your children upon your lack of life, then you actually do not understand and no say who will be elevating your children and relatives would both be battling to get them or all figuring out this is too a lot of a burden and be shuttling them from living house to living house. do not ignore that your own father and mom will be useless by using the time this concern promises itself.
2016-10-18 04:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fabulous idea! If those are the two people you are closest to, and trust to be of guidance to your little one, there's no reason not to. It would probably benefit your child a lot more than choosing a woman you are not that close to, just for the sake of it! It really is a good idea.
2006-12-12 09:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by sins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if youre going to go through the trouble of naming godparents, you should keep it as tradtional as possible. Sit the people down, and explain to them you want them to be in your will as caregivers for the children if your absense, or death, and put it in your will.
Then you're not just hap-hazzardly throwing titles around.
Otherwise, what point is there to Godparents? There isnt any. Its just a title that means nothing.
2006-12-12 03:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My kids don't even have one. Ummm....I would assume you could have 2 if you wanted to, but why not just choose one in case you have another kid....then you'll be in the same boat again.
2006-12-12 04:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a great idea and original - go for it and good luck on the new baby!@
2006-12-12 03:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋