so there is a woman I work with who, when I first started here, talked all the time about her "fiance", only to find out she really isn't engaged and so then she kept telling us he was proposing the weekend after thanksgiving, but it didn't happen then either. Now she is telling us that she is pregnant and due in july, she says she has already had an ultrasound, and having been pregnant myself that seems early (she would only be 2 months along)... how do you cope politely with a co-worker who lies about almost EVERYTHING?
2006-12-12 03:53:16 · 17 answers · asked by bensbabe 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
don't give her an audience. when she comes around, go to the bathroom, get really busy, whatever it takes to get away from her. keep your conversation limited to polite greetings & office business. even though she may be a known liar, don't get involved in gossip about her. b/c she sounds like trouble waiting to happen.
2006-12-12 04:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by L. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just seem really interested in the prgnancy and the engagement. Ask her everyday about it and how everything is coming along, ask her a question and then remember to ask her the same question in a week or two (pretend like you kind of remeber what she said but write down what she really did say) and see what answer you get, you can try catching her in a lie and then just bring up the fact that you think you remember her saying something else if she does give another answer. Or you can keep asking her all the time about it and sound really excited like you want to help her with her plans and she might eventually get tired of it or realize that you are on to her.
2006-12-12 04:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by lil_cuddlebutt_17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person probably needs some type of counseling. She is telling stories to get attention. Is there a Human Resources Dept. where you work? I ask this because some companies offer counseling for their employees. You may want to bring this up with your supervisor. The supervisor may already know about it. Tread lightly. She could be pregnant or engaged.
The lying part is disturbing and sad. She may need some professional help.
2006-12-12 04:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her a bunch of lies of your own, this will let her know how it feels.
For example: Tell her you have bought a new house and will invite everyone for a party but do not ever extend any invitation to her.
Make her feel reallly bad: tell her a family member is very ill and act really upset while doing it, but later in the day smile and sing as if nothing is wrong.
Let her know the boss will let someone, in your office go, but do not tell her who, let her think about it for a few days before you tell her, you do not think it will happen just yet.
I could go on for a long time, but you get the picture.
2006-12-12 04:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Teri Molina 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pity her that she feels she has to create a life in order to be accepted by you. Just ignore the lies and be careful that they don't start to be about you. Limit the personal conversations as whatever you say will probably be misconstrued.
2006-12-12 04:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the type you have to take with a grain of salt. IF you have figured this out, most likely so has some others. Best you can do for yourself is to listen(if you have to) and politely move on. She lives in her own world and doesn't want to come out of it.
2006-12-12 03:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by dadknows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, the real question is -- does she do her work? Does she lie about work-related issues? Does she interfere with others accomplishing their work goals and responsibilities?
When she lies about personal stuff, just nod politely and move on. If she's interfering with WORK, get the manager involved.
2006-12-12 03:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you pay so much attention to a woman who is clearly a pathological liar? Seems her life may be void of these things, so she makes them up because she wishes they would happen; her life is probably a empty one. Very delusional, she may have mental health issues.
Pathetic...I wouldn't have anything to do with her other than a professional relationship.
2006-12-12 03:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People who lie chronically often have severe emotional problems. She might not be lying to annoy or betray you - she might simply be caught up in a net of lies. And she might believe that she is only lovable with a finance or a baby. Maybe it helps to see your coworker in that light.
2006-12-12 04:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Tina L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 04:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋