OK..me and my first love have recently broke up..and i thought that we were finished, so i started talking to someone else. Now he wants to get back with me and I still like him of course, but i like the other person too. And right now im so confused i dont know what to do. Because i like them both almost the same but not really. I think my ex-boyfriend only wants me back because he knows i've found someone else. What should I say or do?
2006-12-12 03:44:32 · 12 answers · asked by lyssa a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think to when you were dating your ex and ask yourself is he worth it...do u see something going there?...were you happy..i mean there is just something appealing to a new relationship and its fun at first but it might make u appreciate what u had..so you really have to think about where it is going..and also live in the moment..what feels right what fits you..dont think about what is good for them but what is for you..i mean your ex might change and realize what he has lost and it could get better..or it mgiht at first then get back to breaking up..if it was love that u had with them then dont leave someone you love for someone you like because the person u like will leave u for someone they love
2006-12-12 03:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that you're very young, perhaps 12-14 years old. This is the advice I give to everyone, not just you. Just be friends. Boys are too immature (and so are you...no offense) to handle an exclusive relationship at this time of their lives. That's why many of your friends are always breaking up. It's just not mean to be, right now. Relax and have fun. Be friends with lots of people. You need to be more focused on your school work, and getting involved in extracurricular activities...finding and nuturing your talents & gifts. The time will come, soon enough, when you will know that you're ready to settle down. Get all your education out of the way first, 'cause guys will just take away any extra time & energy that you'll need to get the best grades you can get. You're only in school for a short while, so you need to make the most of the education you can get while you're young. It's harder to focus on your studies when you get older. Too much stuff gets in the way, like work, responsibilities and such. So, don't choose either one of them. Don't play the dating game. Tell them that you don't want to "go" with either of them, that you just want to be friends. If they can't handle that (this is kind of a test too) then you'll know what they were really after. If they're just content to be your friend, then you'll know that they're mature enough to handle being just friends. Having said that, you'll then have to be content if they start dating other girls. If they truly care about you, they'll respect your wish to wait, and wait with you. Though this is not a popular choice for many, this is the best, with the least amount of heartbreak. You've already had one. They don't get easier. <*)))><
2006-12-12 04:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give this new guy a chance. After all, you gave your first a chance and then it end. Why cut your new relationship short because the last wants you back when they want you? It would not be fair to you or the new guy. Give your self a chance to grow and learn new things. If you where meant to be with your ex, then time will tell, but for now, my advice is for you to take this new relationship in stride and give it a chance. You never know what may happen! Good luck!
2006-12-12 03:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jenjen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends with both of them.But concentrate on school. Make some new female friends and live. You don't have to be in a relationship with anyone. Just hang out with a lot of people and enjoy your freedom to chose who to go out with any time you're asked. You are probably right about your ex. He just doesn't like the thought of you being with someone new. And if you go back to him he will not respect you.Stay friends.Good Luck.
2006-12-12 03:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should take your time to make a decision. Give your ex a chance if that's what you want but don't be too available. That is, keep in mind that the most important person is you. You are the only one who can decide who to choose. Hint: Pick the one that makes you feel better, happier, more complete!
Good luck.
2006-12-12 03:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by MissLatteandMocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that really is a tough one but id say to chose the one thats nicer or the one you feel youre most comfortable around.do u know if the other person likes u the same way as u like them?if u dont id also say to find out if that person does and wait until then to decide.
good luck!:)
2006-12-12 03:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back to your ex, because you are right, he only wants what he can't have. He is justs pissed because you are moving on and not crying over him anymore. Just hang in there and be strong.....don't go back to him. Try something new with this other guy, you might find out you like i tbetter and want to stick with him.
2006-12-12 03:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either on of these guys were right for you, you would be able to choose. Just look at your last relationship and see why it didn't work. Those problems are still there
2006-12-12 03:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by puckbunny03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "follow your heart" isn't very reassuring. My advice is to date them both (not secretly). Let them know that this situation exists and that in all fairness to you, you should not have to choose like that. They should vie for your attention until you are ready to make a commitment.
2006-12-12 03:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by CPT Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with a pen and paper write all the bad about each. The one with the longest column looses you. Don't write the good about each as this will cloud your judgment.
2006-12-12 03:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by kelleyann_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋