My situation is nightmarish...My heart and soul are crushed.
Please read my post on the linked relationship forum....
And post a reply here... I'm most desparate for opoins... All people that read and post will get Thumbs up... and Maximuim Points.
http://www.relationship-forums.com/showthread.php?t=11542
2006-12-12 03:41:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whoa! thats some story! well to be honest i think u should give her a chance if you really do love her at the end of the day we all make mistakes and these mistakes could have been a cry for help or attention. i wouldnt rush into marriage or anything. to be honest as long as the two of yous are happy together i would try to put the past behind at the end of the day its about yous two now not what went on in her previous marriages. we all have secrets we dont want people to find out in fear of rejection or being ambarrased out. i would give a chance and maybe even go to councilling together cause it sounds like this woman may have emotional issues
2006-12-12 03:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by furrigee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heyu, here's an opinion from a relatively average person.
i read your story and it does not sound like a fairy tale one and im not sure there is a light at the end of the tunnel! I do believe people change, but consider this...she's still lying to you-has she changed?? I beg to differ! If you feel in your heart that she's the one for you then go for it, just be willing to accept that she might make a couple mistakes and are you strong enough to deal with all the drama?? you have to ask yourself these questions. Draw up a pros and cons list about the relationship you would like to have with her...if it turns out to be more cons then pros then maybe you should rethink it...ALOT. I personally would not be able to trust someone who has done those things as much as would be able to trust someone who hasn't-even if the person has said they've changed...those words are very esy to say but not very easy to do, let her prove it to you first before you make a final decision. If she loves you as much as you say she will understand!
Good luck man!
2006-12-12 04:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by tulip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello my dear. You are a brave brave brave man. I think you should be knighted by the Queen herself.
Now listen up. People do not change, no matter how much we love them, they are who they are.
This lady love of yours seem to be not only a pathological liar but an undiscriminating child popping machine
You are in for the ride of your life and it seems that she is using you, clearly you need to take time out and think this through.
If you decide to over look the drugs, lies, cheating, multiple children, financial ruin and all the other great misfortune that has befallen this poor woman then you are hereby getting yourself smack in the middle of a life that you might not be ready for.
Try and really think this through.
We all fall in love with the wrong person sometimes, but that is why we have DATING versus MARRIAGE,
Get it?
Be careful, good luck to you.
Irene
2006-12-12 03:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completly understand your situation... boy she has had a very sad and very distressful past...
But what really matters is, what she means to you now? and
what you mean to her Now?
If your heart says that you can trust her, then Plz give her a chance, that will change her life around...
people like her are constantly looking for people, who will completly love her...
Show her that you Love her with all your heart, Mayb that will change her...
and more than anything else, pray to God.. he will help you in this...
My prayers with you bro.... all the best
2006-12-12 04:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by richard k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is NOT to be trusted, I'm sorry, but I wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot-pole. Don't invest anything, because I know it sounds sweet (her saying that she's changed), but I think she'd just do something to you too. DON'T stick with her.
Good Luck!!!!!
2006-12-12 03:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Molly P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never involve myself with a person like that... ever.
I wouldn't count on her changing. Some can pretend but then their true colors start to show.
2006-12-12 03:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by NAQ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to seek greener pastures my friend...
2006-12-12 03:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋