Went out w/ my ex for the first time since he broke up w/ me 2 months ago.
At the end of the night he gave me a really, really long hug. I started to cry, when I looked up at him he was teary. He just looked at me and we hugged again. I told him I missed him, he said he missed me too. I asked if he was upset, he said "a little". He kissed me on the head and then hugged me again.
He told me to call him any time....I told him the same. We said we would get together again soon.
What can I do to keep his interest and get us back together?
2006-12-12 03:36:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never told us why you guys broke up in the first place. We need MORE INFO!!!
But it does sound like he wants to work on getting back together.
:)
2006-12-12 03:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Boodie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, First off the fact that you both seem to have interest still is the best sign that words need to be spoken. The worst thing you can do in life ever is to assume. It dont mean you have to cause any pressure, just be relaxed and give him a call and talk to him like you would a very close friend you miss talking to.When men are feeling emotional and vulnerable they dont like to sense pressure.So just go with the flow and no matter what let him know you are there for him and I am sure he will say the same thing and feel comfort in the idea of spending time with you again more.Believe me,This will help everything fall into place in no time at all.Just dont try to go to quick with this for both of yours sake.Let the "bad" emotional past of this dwindle slowly so you can work into revamping a relationship that seems to be what you both still want.Time does heal these wounds.
2006-12-12 11:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure you should get back together. You broke up for a reason. If one of you betrayed the other, I dont think another round is the best thing for either of you. Spend some more time away and see if you guys still feel like you want to be together, then talk out the issue that broke you up to begin with. You might be able to make it work, but you need to explore the bad stuff to get the good stuff back again.
2006-12-12 11:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's already interested.
Getting back together... is tough because whatever it is that broke you up, is probably still there. Solve that problem, or those problems first.
Also, just start dating again. Don't just go out one night, and jump in bed with him. Make him work for it...but at the same time, reward him for being a good boy. In other words.. treat him like you'd treat a stranger. Don't lessen your expectations, because you've been with him before.
Communicate. Talk to him about what's going on daily, and what your needs are. Let him tell you his needs, and try to work with them.
It's just like any other relationship... it takes time, hard work, committment, communication, and caring (or love if you're in love)..
2006-12-12 11:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call him, and make plans.
Take it slow - remember that there were reasons that you both ended your relationship, as well as reasons that you both got together in the first place.
Right now, you are both fondly remembering what brought you together, which is great.
As you spend time together, the conversation will, most likely, turn to what pushed you apart - then the two of you can forgive each other for what happened, and focus on making sure that it doesn't happen again.
Don't push things - let them happen naturally. If they don't happen, accept that the two of you were meant to be friends - and enjoy that friendship.
Good luck.
2006-12-12 11:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well reading thru 1 thing is clear that there r higher chances of yor relationship to settle again.Only thing is that somone has to take step forward.since u both realised that u can't live each other nothing much is to worry! Just be in contacts,hang around (especially u both met first or which is yor usual hangouts), join in som activity like gym,job,etc where u both can be close and work together, keep messaging once every two hours, sending presents,etc.I know it sounds to childish and funny but doing such small things can giv a boost to yor relationship.
EVERYTHING IS FAIR IN LOVE N WAR!!!
2006-12-12 11:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all do not do the thing u did that made him break up with u. Second, call him and enjoy some quality time together. If there are still feelings (and it seems that there are) you will get together. Also is dex was good....you should try it again ;)
2006-12-12 11:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by alexrombuc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like a battle of pride....both want to get together again but none of u want to say it.
What your ex said is the closest to a first step. Why he didnt said lets get back together...I dont know, depends on why you broke.
If it was your fault, then say Im sorry, if it wasnt, say it anyways, and I bet he' ll say, Im sorry too.
Dont let pride get over love.
2006-12-12 11:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AN ex is an ex for a reason. It seems people never dwell on the happy points of a realtionship until it is over. go figure.
2006-12-12 11:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop faking and just get back together, it is obvious that you too want each other, whatever petty arguement that happened, get over it, move past it and continue your life with em.
2006-12-12 11:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by The Answer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋