We have been together for 2 years. She Graduates in 2 weeks and has been looking for a job.
2006-12-12 03:35:15 · 19 answers · asked by jozwiak36 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not only normal...but commendable. Many girls promise themselves or their family that they will finish school and get their degree. I know that I was engaged nearly 2 years for that same reason. I wanted to my diploma to have my maiden name on it...to prove that I could do--by myself, for myself. Besides looking for a job is a lot of work...planning a wedding is a nightmare. (Everyone that says its fun is lying to some degree).
Don't stress...we are talking 2 weeks before graduation. If you really want to crank up the nuptial clock...do what you can to help her find a job. Stuff those resumes into envelopes, ask around for leads, give her the support she needs after a disappointing interview. In the end she will be happier that she followed through with her goals. One thing that is a certainty is that if both individuals are not happy...then the couple has no chance of bliss.
2006-12-12 03:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a girl with a good head on her shoulders:) A marriage and planning a wedding are big undertakings, and she already has graduation and job hunting on her plate. Sounds like she is one of the few women out there smart enough to know when she needs to wiat. Give her time, you said grad is only 2 weeks away, and a job is probably not that far behind. Chances are, you could be married by this summer already!
2006-12-12 11:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing the same as me. It's better not to have to worry about putting yourself in debt or finding someplace to live together before the vows even take place. Let everything else settle first. Don't worry about it. By the time me and my guy will get married, we'll have been together atleast 3 1/2 years.
2006-12-12 12:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Evoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Sounds like your fiancee has a good head on her shoulders. This is a stressful time for her...so after going through the stress of finals, of finding a job that will pay the bills...she can concentrate on the wedding. Planning a wedding takes a lot of time and can be extremely stressful. Been there, done that.
2006-12-12 16:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by worldglobetrottergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry, Its completely normal. If she's graduating in 2 weeks than get engaged already, theres plenty of time needed to plan a wedding anyways.
2006-12-12 11:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. She wants to get everything else in line first so she can then concentrate on your relationship and your wedding. She sounds very nice and like she has it together. Don't start to worry unless she starts coming up with new excuses after she can't use the old ones anymore.
2006-12-12 11:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by LLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is totally normal my sister has been engaged for 21/2 yrs now and dating for almost 4yrs she graduated in nov and is finishing her externship at ucd medical cntr rt now and is finally getting married in june of 2007....... she said the same thing to her fiance and they have been okk they had some ups and downs with the same insecurity issue but had great support system to get them to get thru the tough times.... u will be ok make sure u talk to someone if things start getting a little mellow and communicate with your partner no matter how pissed off you both are and most of all try to understand the situation and your selves....
take care
2006-12-12 20:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by sosoqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her wish to graduate and have a job before marriage is not uncommon. No need to worry.
2006-12-12 11:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds good, i know thats what i wanted to do, but due to the fact my sweetie is in the Air force i need to get on his papers so that i can go with him to japan when he leaves. Im making him be alone in japan for about 2 months so i can finish my semester at my college and when i get to the base i will register at the college there. We girls like to let it be known nothing is going to hold us back. We know how to get everything we want. lol
Really she is making the smart move. Be happy.
2006-12-12 11:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by corrick_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both did this and it was a great help. I have seen too many young people struggle to get through school because they were in a rush to get married. She has a good head on her shoulders. You are lucky!!
Congratulations!!
2006-12-12 14:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋