Ive been dating this guy for a while now. I just got out of a relationship that lasted almost four years. This guy says that he's been liking me all the time I was with the other person. I really like him too so I thought that after awhile we would try to see if we could actually work. We're not together but we've tried to become intimate. This guy gets sexually aroused by me but when it's time to do it, he's not able too. I'm very attractive so that's not the issue. Guys, tell me what is? For all you guys that are getting ready to say something smart, I have good hygeine and I'm beautiful. Even he says that. We'll start kissing and then he'll just hold me or something. I like it but why can't he have sex with me. PLz help. I asked was it someone else and he said no. Have any of you been through similiar situations? PLease tell. Maybe I'm being too aggressive huh? He'll start like something is going to happen and then he'll just lay there.
2006-12-12 03:34:12 · 11 answers · asked by Brownie_baby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a nut shell.....he's worrying too much about YOU!!! Been there, done that myself.
Some men feel so much pressure to perform up to what he perceives as "her expectations", that he ends up giving up rather than taking the risk of disappointing her. In simple terms, he's thinking, "what if I can't satisfy her?"
What you need to do is talk to him.....tell to take it slow and reassure him that it's okay.
2006-12-12 03:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was too close to you or your ex during the relationship and now cant fight the feeling that the relationship is changing. Maybe he gets excited but doesnt really want to have sex. Maybe he wants a real relationship from you and doesnt want to spoil it by rushing into the physical stuff.
Hang out together with the expectation of not having sex and see if you guys enjoy the time more. Put sex off for a couple months and see if the relationship has more worth that just sex.
2006-12-12 03:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you intimidate him it shouldn't prevent you from having sex with him. Not that I know exactly how you go about getting ready, but one thing that always seems to help is to get completely naked, even before starting kissing, or whatever. That may not seem very romantic, but it simplifies the transition from, say, making out to copulating. If you still can't get him to penetrate you, you're probably better off giving up.
2006-12-12 03:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ivar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, maybe you are too aggressive towards him in the sack. Just open your legs instead of you opening his. Guys do not like having the equivelant of man when he goes for the kill. Also, he could be bisexual, have you done a check up on his past? Your answer could be on his past? Cupcakes, go look for his past for clues.
2006-12-12 03:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. something must be wrong with him psychologically
2. the foreplay may be not enough.
3. ask him about his fantasies.
4. ask him to touch himself in front of you so you may know his 'zones'
5. consult a doctor.
2006-12-12 03:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by math 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have pre mature ejaculation problem? A medical issue e.g. prostste problem (which he may not be aware of) that prevents him from maintaining an erection? Is he a sissy? It may just be performance anxiety..talk to him about these possibilities..advise him to talk to his doctor about it.
2006-12-12 03:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay is not just for men to do. Women need to do it also.
2006-12-12 03:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem may be he is to attracted to you, he may be very nervous with you. its up to you to take your time with him , you need to take the lead to calm him down
2006-12-12 03:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real men?
2006-12-12 03:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by punkyboygirl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only answer questions from "real women" sorry skank!
2006-12-12 03:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋