Why do I feel so bad?

Question

I have been broken up for nearly 5 years from my ex and haven't met anyone worth my time and I see my BF's ex's moving on and already dating and getting married to other men and I can't get even get a guy to take me out to dinner...I consider myself to be very pretty holding it down alone, and plus I'm not even over my ex yet cause I didn't leave him cause I didn't love him but that he has a substance abuse problem..(crying) I feel so bad and especially around this time of the year..everyone is married and happy and I'm still alone. And so is my ex BF alone dealing with his problem but he can find someone asap and be happy meanwhile I'm still alone and unhappy.

Answer 1

if you still love him, why not help him with his problem? addiction is serious and few people are strong enough to go through it alone..im sure he needs you..what if..he is the ONE for you? you need to try and figure that out..five years is along time to be still in love with someone...you are having those feelings for a reason..explore them..help him..try to work things out..and if they dont..then at least you will have closure..

ps...not everyone is married and not everyone that is IS happy..and maybe the reason you havent found someone is because you dont want any one else..you want him!

Answer 2

It sounds like you have issues of your own to work on. Use this time to figure out what you want and the best way to get it. If you can't do this alone then try finding a counselor to bounce idea's off of.

5 yrs is a long time to "not have dealt" with the loss of your BF. There must be more going on then that, and until you figure out what it is, you will not be able to move forward.

Good luck with everything.

Answer 3

Victoria, i'm sorry to take heed to that there is a touch bit disrespect at your residence---yet a 33 365 days previous will under no circumstances pass out if mom is dottering and spoiling him---why ought to he go?? hassle is he will under no circumstances strategies to peacefully co-exist with a woman on a mature element...what a shame. you're also witnessing a touch bit crude disrespectful habit that comes from being kin and living at the same time an excellent type of those years. To an interloper this all sounds poor--to you and your brother this is really universal living. So say no once you ought to--he gained't explode or turn blue. relax, be cool, be fantastic, and strong success-----SMILE

Answer 4

Its not necessarily anything wrong with you, but its really hard to find someone who is "right" for you, especially when your actually waiting or looking for someone. I've come to realize that when u least expect someone to show up they do. Don't think about going back to him because you know that you deserve more, as we all do. I don't know much about him or you, but I do know that love is patient. Don't look at what other people around you are doing either because most of them aren't as happy as they look. You don't want to get in a relationship for all the wrong reasons so wait until you know exactly what you want in life, from yourself, and from a man and then don't settle for anything less. Its okay to feel sad and lonely sometimes but try doing fun things that will keep your mind off of the sad things, like hanging out with your single girls or doing something you've always wanted to do. It becomes a waste of time when you spend it moping around and thinking about the past. I hope I helped. =)

Answer 5

Sounds as though you still have issues from your past relationship, which may be projected out to other people when you meet.

Also not be harsh but you sound needy. It sounds as though you are looking for someone else to make you happy. You could be suffering from depression. Find joy in your life as it is. A mate is not suppose to come in and make you happy, they are suppose to come and enjoy your happiness with you. If you feel another person is going to make you happy you are setting yourself up to be hurt again. People can and sometimes do let you down. Thats why you have to be happy with yourself first and then find someone to share that happiness with. Build yourself up with counseling and bettering yourself confidence. Go to school, work out, get a hobby but be happy alone first. The right person will see this and want to come be happy with you.

Answer 6

Well, I left my ex-husband for a substance abuse problem. I was totally unhappy for the next 2 years. It was Christmas time when I left him in 2002. And I was so miserable for the next year that Christmas 2003 I went back to him. (he had a girlfriend the whole year of 2002 and they broke up right before this)...My point to this story is that sometimes you have to go back to get over it. It took me 8 months of being back together with him to make me realize it wasn't worth it. He wasn't ever going to get better with his problem....Maybe that's something you need to do. I'm not saying to go jump back in his arms, maybe just be friends and get close to him and see that his substance abuse isn't worth you wasting more of your time with him...If he doesn't want help.....Its not worth it. But if he does want help....Help Him!!!!!

Answer 7

Don't worry girl. I'm lind of in the same situation. me and my boyfriend broke up 2.5 years ago. I'm over him and everything but it's hard to find someone else. I get a lot of guys who don't have it together asking me out, but I do not want to settle. I truly believe that someone is out their for you. You just got to be patient and wait. In the meantime don't think about how unhappy you are. Think about the positives that are going on in your life right now. Be around people who love you. Keep busy and someone will come your way. Think Positive!!

Answer 8

Move On, Girlfriend! It's been five years and he's still wallowing in the same problems he had when you decided to leave him. He hasn't learned a thing and is no better choice than the first time you dated him. You deserve better than this. Shake off the gloomies and put a smile on. No one wants to date someone still mooning over a lost love.

Answer 9

dont make it hard on yourself.you dont need to be in a hurry I guess..coz if you really wanted to have a man youve been dreaming of just wait for it, He will come the least you expect it.. and Pls.stop thinking your alone, you have a family,friends that Loves you.for the meantime set aside the feeling that bothers you thinking you cannot get a guy.enjoy what you have for now..dont push yourself too hard..just Pray and spend your time with the loveones you still have.

Answer 10

You just answered your own question. You are NOT getting any men because you are NOT OVER YOUR EX! Simple. No one wants to be with a miserable woman who is still not over her ex boyfriend. Sorry if I sound harsh, but it is true.

I wish you the best, you seem really sweet.

:)