One of my staff which is already married start going out with another staff. As the boss what will you do?

Answer 1

Depends on how high up the food chain you are as far as being the boss. This type of activity, on the part of your employees, leads to a very tense work environment. How do you know if you can trust them with your business any longer?

I would say the decision is up to you, and you have to determine if there is any trust lost between you and your employees. I mean if they will cheat on their spouse, whom they likely took a solemn vow with, what do you think they would do to you?

Tough situation. I have seen people fired for this type of behavior. Good luck.

Answer 2

Unless there is office policy regarding relationships with fellow employees or moral behavior (would be hard to enforce, unless you were working in an environment that demands such - maybe the funeral industry, a church, etc.), then there's unfortunately not much that can be done. Any action on your part compromises your position in the company, since by taking any action without direct violation of written policies opens the company up to a discrimination suit. Review policy closely and talk with human resources, but only if you KNOW that these two are having an intimate relationship.

Answer 3

It is really sad that so many people say "mind your own business" when this is not only a huge professional no no but MORALLY wrong as well... wow, what is our world coming to.
Personally, if I were the boss, I would sit down with them individually and let them know that dating within the company is highly frowned upon. You can't control what happens outside of the office, but if it has been distracting or upsetting to other staff members and affecting company business, it needs to end. Hopefully, they will not discuss personal business in the office anymore. Good luck when the romance ends! Thats when it gets nasty.

Answer 4

A lot depends on the type of business you're involved in. For most jobs I'd say let it go unless it affects their behavior in a negative way. However, if you're talking about a job where integrity is paramount (like a bank, a law firm, a state or Federal government office, etc.) then I'd call that person in and tell them point-blank to knock it off or face termination. If you do that, you need to make it clear that sneaking around on a spouse is not only unprofessional, it shows a lack of respect for the promise they made when they got married -- if you can't trust that person to honor the promise they made to their spouse, how can you trust them to honor any promise they have made to you?

Answer 5

So long as they come back from break and lunch on time (bedhead or not) and work, what do you care. Their spouses will know. No office romance has ever gone unnoticed and someone is always willing to gossip. So, they're marriages are doomed....They'll need a job. Also, they are just embarrassing themselves already. And, just make sure these people are never in a position to handle anything important, because as you see, they don't use they're heads very well at all. And they have moral and loyalty issues. Not really people you want handling your affairs (no pun intended).

Answer 6

Actually the actions of two legal consenting adults is not your business, unless it begins to affect the work environment, but be careful not to be biased because depending on the state you live in your employees can come back and sue you for discrimination. I know this because this actually happened where I work with two other employees. They were very discrete and only a couple of people knew anything, someone felt it was their business and went to the boss, he severely overreacted, put the woman on leave but let the man stay at work- she sued and won.

Answer 7

Is there a policy on dating coworkers? It shouldn't matter if they are married or not- if there is a policy about dating, then the supervisor or Human Resources should enforce it.

It there isn't a policy, the boss should stay out of it unless it interfers with work. Sooner or later the two will be caught by their significant others.

Answer 8

NICE Scenario! Geeze................

Speaking to both individually about the situation is a good thing. Reiterate the negative possibilities that it could cause, not only them, but other staff as well if the situation becomes judicial with the husband and wife.

But first, ask if them (individually) if there is any truth to the grapevine of there untimely relationship. If they say no, then bring them together (either way) and discuss the downs and the repercussions that could arise to their employment if the situation should get out of control.

You will at least know that you counseled (warned) and DOCUMENT the situation.

To cover your ****!!! Hate for you to be sued for terminating one or both for reckless conduct (merited of course) and they play coy about the sitch.

Answer 9

Im hoping this is hypothetical and youre not really the boss who needs direction on this from the yahoos on Yahoo....

With that being said, how about you mind your own business?? As long as the relationship is not affecting work, then it is none of your business. If the relationship is OBVIOUS, I might pull them both aside - together - and tell them that you are aware of what is going on and that you are not going to get involved or judge anyone - but if their work becomes affected, you might have to let someone go....

Answer 10

Erm...you're the boss but you need to come on yahoo answers for advice? Maybe you should resign!

Does your company have a policy on office romances? Surely that's the place to start. If yes, have a quiet word. If no, leave them to it. It's not your business that one is married.