Ok this guy and I have been friends for about 5 years now and he is starting to develop feelings for me and hes been flirting with me and droping hints for about a month now at 1st it wasn't bad but I am involved with someone else but were not dating hopfully we will be soon and I don't want to ruin what I have with this other guy I have worked hard to get it to where its at now. And a few days ago he told me he was intrested in another girl and I was happy about that but then he told me that he had no shot with her and that he still wanted to take me out and he knows I am with this other guy and I am just not sure on how to tell him no because we have been friends for so long I don't want to ruin our friendship over something like this. Because hes a good friend to have around. Any ideas on how to get him to stop coming after me? Anything will help...thanks.
2006-12-12 03:16:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him straight out that you aren't interested in dating him, because you're interested in that other guy. This will hurt his feelings, and he may not want to be friends with you if he can't date you - but there's nothing you can do about that. But it will hurt his feelings less if you tell him NOW that you're not interested, instead of letting this go on and on and on. He might not be able to be friends with you anymore - it might be too painful for him.
2006-12-12 03:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, tell him..."im not ineterested in you in the way you want me to. i like you as a friend and i respect what we have, so why can't you? either you take my friendship or you dont because all this right here is making feel really uncomfortable and it bothers me. i wouldnt want to loose your friendship but if it has to come with what makes me feel good, then I'll listen to my feelings."......hope it works. just be upfront and put a stop to this before he becomes x-tremely infatuated. tell him and don't beat around the bushes cause you might be leading him on without realizing it yourslef. good luck.
2006-12-12 11:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by amy_s03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be open and honest. Start by talking about how great your friendship is and that you really value him as a friend. Tell him that you prefer to keep him as a friend rather than a love interest and that you hope he can respect your wishes and remain your friend.
2006-12-12 11:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by ICARRYABIGSTICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is just a good friend to u...more like a brother. If he wanna know more speficically...then tell him ur not interested and u have already got someone in mind and ur heading that way. Say it in a good way so that u dun destroy ur friendship at the same time.
2006-12-12 11:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by DooGie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy.
This guy obviously doesn't respond to subtlety.
Talk to him privately and tell him you're very flattered but you don't see the two of you being anything more then the best of friends. Make sure he understands that you don't want to lose his friendship.
It'll be hard to say and even harder for him to hear but he'll get it.
2006-12-12 11:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not interested. Sometimes guys don't understand suddle hints. They need to be told in plain English in order to get the message through their head. If you drop a suddle hint showing attraction we hear that loud and clear. If you drop a suttle hint showing denial, it must be amplified.
2006-12-12 11:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tom Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, either just tell him that you are looking for someone to marry or spend money on you. Nag or talk excessively for no other reasoni or the most effective, gain a lot of weight. Most women do that and that is why we have so many divorces.
2006-12-12 11:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest. tell him that ur not interested in him like that. tell him that u just want to be friends and friends only.
i kno what ur going thru, im having the same problem.
ive been friends with gut since like the 6th grade, we're older now and more mature, and he wants to be "with" me.
dont ruin ur friendship. tell him nicely that u dont want to be more than just friends.
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-12 11:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by lilbit16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't want to ruin the friendship by going into a relationship with him...if he respects you at all or values the friendship that you two have he'll understand this
2006-12-12 11:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anushka 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him as nicely as possible that you're not interested in persuing a dating relationship with him.
If he is truly your friend, he'll back off and take what he can get (and possibly wait in the wings!)
2006-12-12 11:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋