I've been seeing this guy for about 2 and a 1/2 months. I like and him and enjoy his company and he feels the same. Recently however, he said that he isn't ready for anything serious and that he has several "friends". He says he likes me and enjoys spending time with me and doesn't expect anything.We've messed around but haven't gotten beyond that. Now its seems he is trying to start trivial arguments so we can fight or something and have me to him to go away. I refuse to get into a friends with benefits with relationship because I have been there before and ends no where and end up feeling used. My question is should I continue being friends with him?
2006-12-12 03:14:12 · 12 answers · asked by aalma00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sure seems to me that most men follow a blue print. I am in the same situation, except we were once engaged. I told him I couldn't be his friend. He can't have it both ways; a friend and expect intimate relations. So, I have not answered his calls and have decided to go about my business and social life without him in it. I think he still loves me, but this is the only way I will be able to find out. It hurts a lot, but, this too shall pass. The more things change, the more they stay the same. I am 60 and he is 65. Still playing games, but sometimes one doesn't know what they want, so they have to give the other one space and time and put them to the test. The holiday's are a good time to put him to the test, because usually everyone is quite sentimental. With men being so immature, it wouldn't suprise me if he is coming up with this so he won't have to buy you an expensive Christmas gift. So, my suggestion is agree with him, go about your business and if he comes back to you, it was meant to be, if he doesn't, it wasn't. Good Luck. As, you already know, the pain subsides with time. And, if isn't the right one, your PRINCE CHARMING will appear eventually; Just please, don't "settle".
2006-12-12 03:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by slippery slope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think it was issue of miscommunication. He's satisfied with sex. Doesn't want a girlfriend You're assuming you're going to be his woman. Just because ppl have sex with you doens't mean they want a commitment... Next time get these things (expectations) ironed out BEFORE you have sex.
2016-05-22 23:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, and I'm sorry you had to go through it too..But if a guy uses us girls, we should never let it go. Even if you're not gonna take revenge on him, never hook up with him or even flirt a little, cuz it'll end up in trouble. I'm telling this because I care, and I don't want anymore of us girls out there to feel used like I did. Don't let him get away with using you.
**Always remember, Love Is A Battlefield**
2006-12-12 03:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jayden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want him to be more than a friend and expect to have a future with him ,you'd better stop your relation as soon as possible .But If you think you can be his friend only knowing that he never will want to have a serious relation with you ,stay with him ..
don't let him to use you if you decide to remain his friend ,never ever let him to take advantage of you ,always remind him that its regular friendship and you're not ready to give him more than you should..meanwhile try to date some other guys too.that will help you to not get involved with this one and feel hurt afterwards..
2006-12-12 03:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to step back you can only get hurt in this situation if you like him even if you are friends it will be had to be around him and not hook up with him just stay away
2006-12-12 03:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't continue being friends with him if he doesn't take things seriously. But at least give it a while. and see what happens.
2006-12-12 03:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie G <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can be friends with him but all you have to find is a boyfriend and stay being friends with that boy you won't worry about him that much.
2006-12-12 03:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by sexymunday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if tou really like him, yes. make sure you keep some distance,men don,t like to be suffocated. meanwhile, go out with other men. dont put all eggs in ine basket
2006-12-12 03:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by prey_cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was there before and I ended up getting hurt pretty badly..move on..leave him ALONE..I mean it..
2006-12-12 03:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone before you get hurt.
2006-12-12 03:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by ITryHard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋