I have 3 children, the first 2 are by one husband who was very violent and the baby is by my soon to be ex he was also violent.
I left my hubby in january to be near my sister, I was in refuge.
I was rehoused and I got counselling and started to build for the future.
I have made so many changes to improve things-
I have always tried to be strong but due to the death of my daughter and my ex hubbys behaviour sometimes I get low.
I have my driving test this week, I'm always the first to offer anyone help if they need it.
My ex is due to see the baby supervised at the contact center on the 23rd and my sister had said she'll babysit.
She now says she ain't going to cos her hubby has a new job, that I expect everyone to feel sorry for me and that I should look for a childcare agency and contact the social services for help.
She never offers to babysit and when her hubby was playing up she asked me to call him and reason with him.
Am I right to be upset with her ???
2006-12-12 03:11:40 · 13 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She also had a strop at my daughters funeral cos she didn't know the arrangements
2006-12-12 03:12:28 · update #1
Its only for an hour and I am 200 miles from my friends.
We have no parents
2006-12-12 03:28:07 · update #2
Ypu have made mistakes that you have paid for dearly, i feel so sorry for you. Your sister is being very unfair, after-all going for your drivers is not like going to the pub or something . It is important you get your license . Ask her to be reasonable and when the time comes she needs help you will always be there for her. Surely she must know that child-care costs. She is just being spiteful. I hope she helps you out , having a license is fantastic and very important. :))
2006-12-12 03:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, through a violent relationship with a child and I know how it is. In all honesty, I was embarrassed about it but everyone said I was looking for pitty but I wasn't! I feel you have every right to be upset because blood is stronger than a piece of paper and vows but then on the other hand her family should come first. It really is a toss up, but there are agencies that will help with child care! Why can't she babysit though, I don't really understand. Especially if she doesn't work, why should her husband job interfere?! I'd sit down and talk to the both of them face to face and explain it is only for a little while or I'd pick up and fight tooth and nail to prove to them you don't need their help.
2006-12-12 03:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st let me congratulate you on getting on out of a bad marriage even when the chips are down you are staying strong i no it don't seem like it but each day you are getting stronger
OK your sister don't want to help well that is a kick in the teeth for you but come on girl look what you have been through you are coping and you will try getting into a under fives group they are great you meet new people learn more and believe me you will find you will get stronger you just have to start kicking life is hard but you keep kicking till you get were you want to be
be upset at your sister we all get like that but hay she will be there when the chips are really down
try and concentrate on your life give your sister a break for a while show her you can get on with life
i wish you all the luck
respect
shaz
2006-12-12 04:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself and from what ive read you have every right too your sister is being very unreasonable and selfish she of all people should be there for you however after everything youve been through im sure your a very strong person and will cope with this without her help could a friend mind your baby that day?that way you dont have depend on her i wish you all the best of luck you deserve some happiness good luck with your driving test i hope everything works out for you your a very strong and brave person!!!
2006-12-12 03:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by keevy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard but no one actually ows us anything and we cannot guarantee how we are treated by people, not even our families or the people we help.
Let her know how you feel in a way that does not cause you to get more upset or to cause you two to fall out. Sometimes a letter is best if you get too emotional.
2006-12-12 03:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mike Rafone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not have the right to be upset. Your kids aren't your sister's responsibly. Yes, you,ve had a hard time. But you need to stand on your own two feet. It is time to become independent.
2006-12-12 03:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by atkinsonline 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have every right to b upset with her shes supposed to b there for you when you need her im sure you are there for her when she needs you . try and get someone else to babysit for you good luck with your driving test .hope you pass itll give you the boost you need.
2006-12-12 03:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by wilbur2lot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have that right i come from a big family and we all way help each other out and that is the way family should be blood is thicker than water
2006-12-12 03:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by ladycrazzyhorse20022002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's her freedom to do so. A little upset is normal, but you can't really blame her. Well, best of luck!
2006-12-12 03:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be upset with her as much as you like but is it going to solve any think,if you are dependent in any way to her she will all ways think/know she can please herself what she says or dose
2006-12-12 03:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋