My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs. Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th nov he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prosti**te. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me . When 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me, He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me. Why does he abuse me???I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me . He considers me to be a very cheap gurl whereas i was with my parents when he thought me to be dating with some guy as his friends told him so.He only trusts his friends n they keep telling him im bad.NOW HE SENT 2 MESGS ON 2dec.1MESG-HOW'S UR BF?2-I MAY B SILENT BT DEEP IN MY HEART I MISS U
2006-12-12 03:06:29 · 19 answers · asked by sakeena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FIRST SEND THIS JERK A MESSAGE THAT YOU WILL KICK HIS BUTT IF HE SENDS YOU ANOTHER MESSAGE OR TRYS TO CONTACT YOU IN ANYWAY. SECOND CLEAR YOUR MIND OF ALL THE BAD STUFF HE HAS SAID AND DONE. JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP. THIS TYPE OF ABUSE ONLY GETS WORSE, A SLAP HERE A BAD NAME THERE, THEN A FUNERAL. YOU DO NOT WANT THAT. PLEASE KEEP THIS GUY OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND LEARN THE SIGNS OF ABUSE FOR YOUR FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS. SO HISTORY DOES NOT REPEAT IT SELF. SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCES SO THAT SOMEONE ELSE DOESN'T HAVE TO WALK IN YOUR SHOES. PEOPLE WHO ABUSE OTHERS HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM AND NEED HELP THEMSELVES. THAT IS WHY THEY ABUSE OTHERS. THEY BLAME SOMEONE ELSE FOR THEIR SHORTCOMINGS. PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN TODAY AND SAY NO MORE ABUSE.
2006-12-12 03:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by wantedmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to firmly and meaningfully tell him you want no further contact with him. Also, since this guy is dumb enough to give your the physical evidence of his intentions of hurting you...show those text messages to the police. This guy is no good. Also...CHANGE YOUR NUMBER...if you talk to the provider that you are using and explain the problem, they will surely work with you to get your number changed.
Guys like this will eventually follow up on their threats. He has a warped sense of self worth thinks he's better than you...he is WRONG. You are a better person than this guy. You are right to be afraid, but you need to take some steps to protect yourself. Go to a women's abuse shelter. They can give you information on local resources for you, ideas on how to protect yourself.
Please be careful...take precautions...and turn this guy in. Even if he leaves you alone, he'll do this to another girl. Don't make it easy for him.
2006-12-12 03:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number. Get an ex parte. There are laws to protect you. Don't go anywhere alone for a while .Do not talk to him any more. You are horrified. That is what he wants. He says he loves you. No! He hates you. He is a violent stalker.Protect yourself and those around you. Call the police and report him.Good luck babe.
2006-12-12 03:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops on him and save those messages as proof. restraining order comes to mind. dont let a man take advantage of you nor give him the upper hand to abuse you. if u continue to talk to him it'll be bad for you. wake up and realize that he's an abuser and an obsessive ex-bf. becareful...guys like that end up killing their gf's.
2006-12-12 03:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by amy_s03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's scary and dangerous. Call the cops and get away from him. If someone can physically or mentally abuse you one time, they can and usually will again. It's not healthy for you and dangerous. Not only that, but you should know that people like that don't change. EVER!! Don't make excuses for him and protect yourself!!
2006-12-12 03:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by KellyBelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that you dont want to date someone who can become this abusive. He flipped out and he will flip out again. You shouldn't be returning his text messages at all. He doesn't trust you at all anymore and if you try to get back together his paranoia will make him even more abusive.
2006-12-12 03:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police about the messages but continue to move on he will continue the abuse trust me I know!
2006-12-12 03:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tricee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that really sucks. You just gotta get a restraining order, and start seeing other people. Dont answer his text's anymore! This keeps getting worse with no signs of letting up. Goodluck.
2006-12-12 03:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay the answer is simple leave him. I know it is hard to move on but no girl should ever be hit by a man and if he continue to act in this manner call the cops on him. Block his number and find you someone who is going to love you for you.
2006-12-12 03:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it seems like his playing games with your head. it seems like his insecure about himself and obviousely his NOT over you. It looks ugly for you because if I was you I would ask a restraining order to keep him far away from you because it seems like his a very Jelouse person and very obsessive over you. stop returning his messages, change your number and move on because it sounds like his not good for you, I mean if you Love somone you dont abuse them, that's just wrong. Move on with your life and forget about him and if he gives your any problems again save your messages and go to the authorities and get a restraining order that he is bothering you....
2006-12-12 03:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by supersteveee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋