I do not believe in the institution of marriage. I feel it has outlived its utility. But due to parental and peer pressures i am marrying someone in a months time. I am an independant person but an extrovert. I like solitude but i do an occasional hang out with my female colleagues. Nothing more than an eatout in the evenings. Spending the rest of my life with somebody and having to sleep in the night..., oh! the thought of it. I slept with my mom till i was 10th class. I feel i will lose all my independance. What do you think?
2006-12-12 03:05:26 · 24 answers · asked by Kushal-Know All 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For one, marriage doesn't mean loss of independence. It means added responsibilities though. I don't think you are half as scared to lose your independence as you are to shoulder additional responsibilities. And the probable reason is explained by your protective upbringing. At an age when you should have been allowed to shape your outlook to life by seeing it first hand, you continued to sleep with your mother. If you are really independent as you claim to be, you can not be pressured into doing something you don't like. Parental and peer pressure forcing you into marriage clearly indicates that you are yet to come out of that protected mindset and that you are still comfortable when your parents or others take major decisions for you, even if those go against your wishes. In the end I would say that marriage is one of the very few really wonderful experiences in human life. To savour the joys of marriage a mature mind and a self confident nature are a must. Measure yourself against these prerequisites. And decide accordingly for yourself.
2006-12-12 03:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats first off lolol
And secondly you will not be loosing any independece you will be joining in union with someone If you are having doubts then dont go through with it remain the way you were before your previous state because marriage is forever so really think about it lolol But there must be a reason why this is happeneing to you because God wouldnt have put you in this state to think about it. And again congartulations
2006-12-12 03:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Da Trill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2.5 years isn't that lengthy, yet thinking both one in each and every of your a even as, that is adequate time. He might want to do not forget that females persons can not wait continuously, previous due 30s and early 40s is amazingly previous by way of be having toddlers. our bodies were made to have toddlers between the a even as of 15 (believe it or not) till previous due 20s. that is troublesome, although, to cajole someone to marry you, and interior the properly they could experience sorry about it in the journey that they did not make the decision on their personal time. that is a troublesome call. If he's wanting toddlers, although, he might want to understant that he desires to act slightly faster. If he's not intersted in this, it explains why he's appearing this way. good luck.
2016-11-30 11:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to marry then do it. you see it is not up to ure parents or ure friends when u marry it depends on you when you are ready no one else. so if you are getting forsed onto this marrige dont do you will only be miserable and make ure spouse misrable aswell. And as for loosing ure independance everyone has to once that are married cuse now u have someone in ure life
2006-12-12 03:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmeen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it as gaining a life time companion and not loosing any thing.
If you feel this strong about loosing Independence. Then break it off.
But it has to be your and your thing to do. Same is the case if you get married then it should be your thing and not any one Else's thing.
2006-12-12 22:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be independent if u think u r engaged due to parental pressures ..don't ruin someone's life If u are not ready to be into ur marriage..that's how i believe about..
2006-12-12 03:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Diya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends as to whether you really love them. You sound that you are not sure so I would say, dont do it. You obviously do not like the sound of marriage so dont put yourself through it. More importantly, dont put her through a false sense of security either. Let her find someone that wants to marry her for all the right reasons
2006-12-13 00:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm...are you seriously blaming the fact of not wanting to get engaged or married to the person who you have been with based on the fact of...I'M INDEPENDENT!! your independency does not end with marriage...the only thing to change is a piece of paper stating that you are legally married...look at the people who are married these days and still have their independence! grow up
2006-12-12 03:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by KristinDouglas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should seek some professional advice. Do not put another person through this. You take responsibility and deal with your issues before you ruin your life and someone elses I wish you luck.
2006-12-12 03:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Independence is something you live, has nothing to do with signing a paper. If you commit willingly, then your'e taking an independent decision.
2006-12-12 03:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by morganna_f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋