My boyfriend of a year has always been in contact with his high school crush. The girl he could never have. He tried cheating on me with her once but she didn't want anything to do with him. He was constantly dumping me or trying to whenever he thought it would work out with her. I ditched him for it. But he begged for me to come back. He claims he's changed and that I am the only one he wants. That what he did before was just a mistake. Never the less he has not stopped the stalker action. He lies to me about talking to her, e-mails, myspace messages, the works. He says I blew the earlier incident out of proportion and he is committed only to me, but the sneaking around continues. He says he hides it because he doesn't want me freaking out, but hiding it just tells me that there is something to worry about. Do I trust him and stick around? or do I end this on again off again for good.
2006-12-12 03:01:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all depends on what you want. Do you want to constantly worry about what your man is up to and who it is with? Or do you want to take the risk of finding someone else who will treat you as you want and deserve? You are obviously getting something out of this relationship, or you wouldn't even question it-you would walk away. So, is what you get out of it worth the trouble and heartache? You are the only one who can answer that.
2006-12-12 03:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by cosdogg11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll always wonder about his true intentions.
You're second best to him, a consolation prize. Don't settle for that, believe you're number and wait for a man that will think you're number one.
You're committed to the relationship working and he's not and it's a given that a relationship needs to be a 2-way street.
Let it go for now, at least give yourself and him some space, do your own thing for right now.
Good luck!
2006-12-12 11:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tempest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You end it for good because if he cheated on you once then he will do it again if he gets the chance to do it. there is other guys out there that is willing to treat you a lot better then he did. you just have to get over him and move on to someone that is better then him, someone that won cheat on you,someone that will treat you the way that a man is suppose to.
2006-12-12 11:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think u should move on because u can do better than that. i dont know but i know u need to be treated better than that. so u need to go out and find another man or stay single for a while.
2006-12-12 11:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Bigsexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. You need a man who's all about you, not hung up on his ex. Plus his stalker ways are just plain scary.
2006-12-12 11:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by strawberrycrush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's using you for security and that if the old HS girl were to date him, I GUARANTEE he would dump you. Save your dignity. Do the preemptive break-up.
2006-12-12 11:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont trust him now you will not later - its been a year and you have discussed with him already that you do not want him to speak with her - so time will not change anything
WALK
2006-12-12 11:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2006-12-12 11:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by polockpete40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it, he's obviously trying to hide something and lieing to you. theres better fish in the sea :)
2006-12-12 11:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i would do i would end it off for good . cause his not respecting you of the simple fact of you being his girl
2006-12-12 11:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Gisselle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋