I have an ex who turns up all the time and then texts me to say he won't come round again.
I have asked him to meet me this time as i'm fed up of the yo-yoing.
He won't meet me to do it properly. He says if he see's me that he won't be able to do it.
I suspect its more that he has no intention of stopping turning up!
What do you think?
Can you tell me if you are male or female if you do me the honour of answering my question
2006-12-12 02:30:12 · 21 answers · asked by kiku 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have changed my phone numbers. So he comes to the house.
there are reasons why I can't completely break from him
2006-12-12 02:44:50 · update #1
He has broken up 2 relationships of mine as the men think I'm seeing him behind their back!!
2006-12-12 03:30:18 · update #2
Give him the shopping list when he comes. You get your shopping the next time he comes round, delivered to your door step.
To be honest I think you have a difficult situation in your hands. Make your stand known to him, verbally and emotionally, and let him know its not open to change.
Good luck
2006-12-12 02:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya kiku,
im afraid you may have to be cruel to be kind. If he wont meet you then good dont encourage him, he may think YOU arewnt serious about the split. Change your phone number or tell him ur with someone else. And ALWAYS have someone with you when you feel likely to be in a situation where he will turn up. NO should mean NO. I'm a fella and as much as it hurts when a relationship ends, it can hurt even more if you try to hang on. Just say, its not working out and i would appreciate it if you left me alone now to get on with my life and you should do the same. Goodbye.
2006-12-12 10:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a girlie..do you want to see him again? i dont know the basis of what happend, but i had an ex once where we had a distant relationship and one that should'nt have been happening for certain circumstances, but he used to just show up when he wanted to and i always wondered when or if this was going to be last time. It was sooo difficult and he never wanted to meet on my terms as it was sometimes difficult.
But it got the point where it had to stop cos it started to upset me as everytime was always the last. In the end i didnt always answer my phone to him, and our relasionship got more and more distant.
Now he doesnt live in the country, i miss him,, but it was for the best.
You need to decide what is right for you and maybe you have to be the strong one....change your number maybe x
2006-12-12 10:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by chloe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a female. You don't need to meet up to discuss to stop seeing each other or say goodbye, my friend used to do this all the time and the saga just never ended.
Be cruel to be kind. Stop all contact, and if he comes over tell him to leave and shut the door.
You can't move on properly with him hanging around.
2006-12-12 10:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As he is an ex, I would also consider meeting him and telling him that it is over! He has to stop turning up at yours as its bordering on harrassment, and if he doesn't stop you will get a court interdict against him! It sounds like he is playing games with you and you basically have to be firm with him! As he is an ex, do you have a present boyfriend? Tell your ex you have moved on and if he has any ounce of respect for himself and you, he will do the same. Don't let this spiral into a nasty situation .. be firm and if necessary get advice from your local police! GoodLuck! PS I am female!
2006-12-12 10:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to say goodbye to someone who's not getting the picture is to cut off all communication. There's no need to even meet him to tell him that it's over. Your actions of not responding anymore will show him that you have gone on with your life.
2006-12-12 10:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I have an ex who turns up all the time and then texts me to say he won't come round again."
sounds like hes trying to make you run after him
"He won't meet me to do it properly. He says if he see's me that he won't be able to do it."
he knows what that meet will lead to.
just say, i dont want to stay in contact, you keep messing me around, and i am bust as it is!
got to be creul to be kind xXx
2006-12-12 10:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to listen to the words of "Fast Car" by Tracy Chapman.
Really listen. And to abide by them!
if he loves you he doesn't have any excuse to treat you badly.
So he should live his life and be cruel to some one else.
He doesn't seem a very nice person and any love for him by you will be wasted.
He can't appreciate what he has got, a nice loving relationship.
Leave it to him. He will be very lonely in a few years!
2006-12-12 14:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a lad 33yrs I broke up with my girl but after about two weeks I relised what a mistake I had made i tried all sorts of ways to win her back however I only got the message when she totally ignored me. It took some time to relise that she had moved on with her life but eventually I did. The only way he will get the message is if you do somthing simillar. its true wat they say you have to be cruel to be kind
2006-12-12 10:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by bruce s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a girl.
i suggest you tell him what you said here. you're tired of the yo-yoing and if he's going to leave you, then leave, and if he's not, don't say he's going to.
tell him this in a place where you can be alone but a loud reaction won't bother people.
2006-12-12 10:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by marajader2d2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋