2006-12-12 02:24:14 · 18 answers · asked by angela C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
When other kids ignore children it can be for several reasons. First, you need to take a honest look at his physical appearance. As others have suggested, is he clean and presentable? Is there any issue with clothing or hygiene? Once you are sure that is not the problem, then take a look at his behaviors. Does he do anything that other kids might find annoying? Does he make strange noises (more than the average 6 year old)? Does he have behaviors that children might see as being "weird?" If you don't know, please talk to your child's teacher. Reassure her that you just want to find out what you can do to help your child. Sometimes the teacher can give you some honest feedback once she feels comfortable that you're on the same team and her advice won't be taken poorly by you. Some parents get so defensive when a teacher even suggests their child needs help in any area. It might be difficult but you need to encourage your child's teacher to promote a friendlier environment.
Someone here suggested that you bring in some treats. She has a point, but I think there is more to it. I would suggest that you do the following:
1. Find ways to be involved in the classroom from time to time. I am not saying you should be there every day. That might be counter-productive. But volunteer to help your child's teacher. Be very nice to all of the kids. Your child will get some benefit from you being an adult at the school.
2. Ask your child's teacher if you can bring in some hot chocolate and good homemade cookies (don't burn them or just buy store bought) for the kids to enjoy WHILE you read a story to them. Be sure the story is really good and you use some fun voices. The kids need to see you as being cool and therefore will see your son as being at least more cool than they did before.
3. Volunteer to grade papers or do ANYTHING your child's teacher needs done. If you are a person who is willing to HELP your child's teacher, the teacher will naturally focus a little more attention on your child (it is natural). The extra attention will make some magic happen in more ways than you will realize.
2006-12-12 02:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have to call anyone names to solve this. I am referring to the post that says they are stupid.
The dynamics of 6 year old society is a never changing one. One day they are best friends, the next not so much so then once again they'll be friends. This is a very common complaint and happens often. The only thing I could suggest is that you tell your child that these things happen and try to venture out on his own and find other friends. The circle will complete it's self and they will be friends again.
At this age they are still learning how to get a long with each other, who they are and who they want their friends to be. Give it time, relax and tell your son it's OK, this happens and encourage him to make friends with someone else.
2006-12-12 14:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go telling him to shrug off the other kids, talk to him see what they are saying. If it is something like the clothes that he wears then change it. At this age kids are cruel, something as silly as Bob the Builder can make him the out cast. Then point out the people who do love him. Make him understand that it is not important that everyone loves him. What is important is that more people love him then not. This wave will pass quickly. He'll be back in with his friends in no time at all, but at least the next time he will be prepared. He will also know that he can come to you to be reassured.
2006-12-16 07:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Shel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a Kindergartner. It is amazing how much drama there is at that age. My daughter's friend situation changes daily. The one thing I learned is that when this happened to my daughter I thought why are the kids being mean to her. But come to find out she was not being nice to them that day and that is why no one wanted to sit by her. As parents we want to think the best of our children. I would talk with his teacher she might be able to enlighten you on the situation.
2006-12-12 10:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Loren T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his teacher and see what the situation in the classroom is. The teacher will have first hand knowledge of what is really going on and may be able to find a solution to help your child fit in.The teacher usually assigns seats to the class.Do they have rows of desks or are the desks in clusters of 4. Usually there is one or two students who try to be social with everyone.Maybe your child can be moved to a different desk.Do the "friends" come over to your house to play after school or do they play with him/her at recess?
2006-12-12 11:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him not to act like it bothers him. make sure that he is brushing his teeth in the morning and that all his clothes smell fresh. explain to him not to pass gas in class that you can only do that in the bathroom and when you are done in there how important it is to wash his hands. also tell him to cover his mouth when he coughs or sneezes. believe it or not kids at that age do care about this stuff and may be avoiding him for that reason. make sure that he knows he has to behave and listen while in class. also i would talk to the teacher and see if she may have a clue as too why this is happening. also have him bring in hoiliday cookies or cupcakes for the class a little brib goes a long way.
2006-12-12 10:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TRY SOMETHING DIFFREENT LIKE SENDING SOME TREATS TO SCHOOL FOR HIS CLASS. LIKE TREAT BAGS, COOKIES, OR CUPCAKES. LET HIM BE INVOLVED WITH MAKING THEM OR PICKING THEM OUT. THIS IS A GREAT WAY TO MAKE FRIENDS & GET NOTICED. ALSO, TRY TO REMEMBER THESES ARE JUST 1ST GRADERS AND SOMETIMES ALL IT TAKES IS A LITTLE PUSH. ALSO, IF POSSIBLE, GO & EAT LUNCH WITH YOUR CHILD AND HELP HIM MEET KIDS , GET TO KNOW THE CLASS WITH HIM. I ALSO HAVE A 6 YEAR OLD SO YOU ARE NOT ALONE. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-14 10:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by citygirl2674 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have a six year old brother that sometimes says that his friends wont sit with him or play with him, Me and my Mom just tells him that they are stupid and dont know anything and that seems to help. We just tell him that it doesnt matter if anyone wants to sit with him, just say that they dont know any better.
2006-12-12 10:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Bored&Broken 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he needs to take a course on confidence.
you should get him involved with martial arts or some other type of physical activity early. if you dont do it now, he will be attract bullies, and this will be a recurring problem that you affect him for life.
just telling him to ignore them and keep up his appearance wont do it, and give his friends gift to be with him wont do it.
2006-12-12 10:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sopwith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my 5 year old gradson who lives with us would tell me that no one plays with him or talks with him..i was concerned so i talked with the teacher and found out just the oppisate...call his teacher...this will enable her to observe what is going on
2006-12-12 22:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by diane b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋