now and the father gets to see the baby every friday and sunday for 5 hours. Since that was all he wanted but all he does is uy formula, diapers, wipes and whatever else the baby needs that my sister puts on the list. But the thing is, he doesn't always by everything, or the right thing.. and sometimes nothing at all. I tell her to take him to court but she is afraid that he will get the baby more and really he doesn't even pick up the baby, his parents do. They usually drop her off too. What should she do?
2006-12-12 02:14:27 · 8 answers · asked by sourstraws 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She needs to go through the court system and have this taken care of. She really needs a lawyer. If she goes this route she can have regular child support payments established and if he doesn't make them then she can take him back to court. She can have visitation scheduled so that either he has to pick the baby up or his parents can and if he must be with his parents while the visit is taking place or not. This is the only way to protect the baby and herself financially.
She could always talk to him and say listen I know this will be hard but I think going through the courts and getting things established legally would be best for both of us. This will provide him with the proof he is paying the support and her with the support. It is the babies right to have a father that financially supports it. Then she can say that if they establish regular visitation in a court record then we have to stick to it.
They probably get along good at this point but it will only take something minor for him to get mad and stop supporting the baby all together. This will protect her from this.
Good luck and best wishes!
2006-12-12 02:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by country girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court, and have the court decide how much he will pay, it is usually a certain percent of his monthly earnings and comes straight out his check before he even gets it.
She should also stop complaining about how much time the father spends with the baby (the court may say every weekend and a few holidays), the child, she is going to need more help raising the child when he (or she) gets older. So she should be glad the father wants to be a part of the child's life.
P.S: Your sister is only thinking of right now. In the future she is going to want more from the father than diapers and formula. Things like school clothes, Toys, Bikes, college funds, and weekends away from the child if she decides to date again (not good to bring strange men around children).
2006-12-12 10:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your sister has full custodial rights and if she takes him to court he will have to give her child support and at the most he will get to come pick up the baby and still see he/she for 5 to 6 hours few days a week now when the child gets older perhaps 3 yrs of age the father will be able to come every other weekend from friday 6 pm to sunday 6 pm and keep the baby at his home. both and yourself needs to stop thinking of what he doesnt do the fact that he comes to see the baby and occassionally attempts to buy items is more than what alot of kids have you all should tell him how glad you are that he is in the babys life take it from experience i have a kid who just turned 6 yrs old and has only had her dad in her life for the last 5mths be glad that baby has a father and grandparents willing to spend time with the child
2006-12-12 10:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by jaime_0302 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now this guy does this because he can. I went through the same thing with my first daughter. He insisted on buying things rather than give me the money. It lasted for a while until little by little he bought less and less and then nothing at all. Unfortunately this idiot has rights too though. The only way your going to get what you need for that baby is to fight for it via court. It might be he is doing this only because this is what his family is telling him to do. The judge is going to be harsh on him for trying to pull a fast one and not give you money. Take him to court. I hope this has helped
2006-12-12 10:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by sdexcalibur 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take him to court.she can make it were he has to pick up and drop off the baby she can set the times for the visits and they could get child support payments right out of his checks if she is on Medicaid even better all she needs to do is tell her medicad worker they would do the rest.please tell her don't let him get away with this her and her baby are better then that
2006-12-12 10:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by KISS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
file for child support and then she can buy her child what he or she needs and then she wont have to worry about him getting the wrong things. or not getting anything. child support is what she need to do good luck.
2006-12-12 10:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, I wouldn't fight someone else's battle.
Second, I would seek professional help, not answers on Yahoo.
Third, they have to do whats best for baby.
2006-12-12 10:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by p_rutherford2003 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
COURT GO!!!!!!
2006-12-12 10:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋