i am 23, mother of a boy who's 3 daughter is 10 months. i have been with their father for 4 years. i feel that there is something seriously wrong with me, (not that i want to hurt myself or anyone.)I am afraid to speak to anyone about it. I know that i have issues from my childhood and i think maybe thats why i am the way i am today, except I just feel worse and worse as time goes on. the only true happiness i feel i have are my children, i would prefer to not have contact with the rest of the world, even family. i never really leave my house and now i find myself sometimes scared to leave cause i dont want something bad like an accident to happen. is that normal. i am very smart so i kind of see a problem but i do not want counseling. i do not want to be heavily medicated. i do not have insurance or money to see someone even if i wanted too. i feel that i am at a breaking point and dont know what to do. what options do i have?
2006-12-12 02:13:43 · 9 answers · asked by i.might.b.crazy 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
was anyone else afraid to talk to a doctor? what do they ask? if you didnt get help, how are you today?
2006-12-12 02:29:00 · update #1
i 'm not sure if i'm having symptoms of a disorder or if i am just emotional? but i find myself crying for no reason. i feel very angry mostly all the time. i don't even answer the phone when it rings but i do check to see who it is, sometimes i call back. i just think about EVERYTHING all the time. my husband tells me not to worry about things so much but i cant help it. i don't want people to think there is something wrong with me either. i have recently lost weight and i think i look great but everyone else disagrees.( 5ft, 105 lbs.) i'm not trying to lose it it just happened but i look good now, and wont lose anymore. i keep picking up the phonebook to call for help but can't do it...maybe i can just get past this myself...but i've felt like this for years and its not gotten better. at times i feel o.k like for a day maybe.
2006-12-12 02:36:44 · update #2
you do need help, serious. you AT LEAST need to get out of the house sometimes. go for a walk or to the park, that doesnt cost anything and walking will do you a world of good. and you need to tell your husband about it as well, because your not doing him any favors by keeping it from him, he may be able to help
2006-12-12 02:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience I have realized that the way you were raised has a big impact on the way you will be in the future. Every cause has an effect, if you know what I mean. For instance, if you were abused or neglected as a child, you may have mental illnesses in the future. If bad stuff happened to you a lot, you will come to expect and fear it. I know you don't want therapy but I can tell you it would be your best bet to find out if you have a problem. Therapy really helped me and it could help you too. It may be a relief to finally know what is wrong with you.
2006-12-12 10:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like l was a few years ago. I felt the same as you... no to councelling, no to medication etc etc. I thought l was smart enough to deal with it myself. Things slid till l suddenly started thinking of suicide - only it had to include my 2 kids because l couldn't possibly leave them to suffer because of me. That's when l finally realised that l HAD to get help. Looking back l was pig headed to think that l was super human and able to sort out my life. I had worked as a nurse for many years and had developed a phobia of death, which from your writing sounds a little like you. My whole life revolved around death and it's effects on my children or myself.
Please get help. Medication is only half of the solution. You need to see a professional as well to sort out your problems. It does get better, honest. I've been a sufferer since l was 10 yrs old - (childhood issues like you) l'm almost 45 now. I only started to get a grip on my life properly when l gave in and got help 5 yrs ago. I'm a whole new person now. I still have my moments (especially now that l'm in the peri-menopausal stage of my life) but on the whole things are pretty good for me. With the right medication you can lead a good funtioning life again.
Remember, depression is a treatable illness. You are not a failure to get help. Think of it like this.... think of your stress levels as being in a cup. In the course of a normal day, the level will rise and fall. Your cup however has had more rises than falls and has overflowed. May sound stupid, but it's how l was told to picture my stress levels and it made sense to me.
I wish you all the best.
2006-12-12 11:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by pam h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously suggest that you get help from a Doctor...actually a Psychiatrist. You defienetely have ALL the signs for Depression, anxiety and Agorophobia (the fear of leaving your home). I myslef went through a depression and refused to also get help. It went WITHOUT a doctors help for months before I completely broke down. DONT let it get to this point. I was having anxiety attacks, didnt want to eat and only wanted to sleep...but worst of all I was SO depressed that not even my daughter would make me feel better! I was desperate and finally broke down and saw a Psychiatrist. After months of therapy and meds that were needed because of my deep depression I am finally back to normal. I suffered from what I now know to be a Panic Disorder and Depression. What you are feeling about not wanting to leave your home is the Agoraphobia which goes hand to hand with Anxiety and Depression. I seriously suggest you dont put it off any longer. Get help and get your life back. If your children are your life just like every other parent...do it for them. Good Luck.
2006-12-12 10:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by m91342 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should see someone! There are many community resources for counseling that either charge on a sliding scale or are free (Universities, teaching hospitals, community mental health centers, private practitioners who charge on sliding scales or know how to get people on supplemental insurance). Depression in mothers can be very, very hard on children, and you want the best for yourself and for them. Take care of yourself so you can take care of others. You don't ever have to take mediciation, and no one will refuse to help you if you don't want meds. Don't be miserable and afraid, get help.
2006-12-12 10:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by Angry Daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what state you are from but all states mandate hospitals to treat people no matter their ability to pay....if it is really desperate then I would go to the emergency room and tell them about your problem if you are from a state with decent social services you may be able to apply for that states relevant care program which is basically like state funded insurance.
2006-12-12 10:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have social aniexty. I guess go get some meds or go to behavior modification treatment
2006-12-12 10:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by TC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be helpful
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-12-12 14:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.kryon.com
www.crimsoncircle.com
2006-12-12 10:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by morganna_f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋