So here's the thing...i have been going out with this guy for 3 years and just recently, he cheated on me with two girls. I dont want to be with him anymore, but when I told him I wanted a break, he said he didn't want to and threatened that he was gonna kill himself...he's never been the best boyfriend he likes being with his friends and partying and doing drugs more...so I dont know why he wants to stay with me....So anyways, I started talking to this guy, hes so nice and sweet and I think that we could be really great friends, but the only thing is that the guy I was with(that thinks hes still with me) will probably do something and it really scares me...can somebody pleaaaaaaaaaaaase help me, if anyone could give me some advice, it would be really appreciated.Thanks a bunch guys♥♥
2006-12-12 02:05:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i thing that bastard will not kill him self he says that so u will not leave him write him a note and tell him its over and ta-DA if he puts up an a sing and dance tell him he is as fake as a cartoon character and u dont buy his act and he is a bad aactor
2006-12-12 02:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad situation. He has lots of friends. That is great. There is such a thing as letting someone down easily. Do it with kindness but stand firm. Tell him you think he is a great guy. You care for him.Bur that it is best for you both to part ways. The guy you like is who you should see. Don't worry about him getting hurt. Am sure he can defend himself if need be. Also your bf threatened to kill himself. Wow. I have heard that line far too many times. He is volatile and on drugs and running with other girls. I can see all kinds of problems of the worst kind. Motor vehicle accidents.domestic violence, suicidal tendencies which are clear but bogus at this point, STD, maybe Aids. Is a horrifying thing to see. Much less be a part of. I seriously doubt he will commit suicide. He has far to many friends to do that. God forbid he ever do. You are thinking the right thing. Do the right thing and limit your conversation with him altogether after you break away from him. Get an ex parte down at the courthouse .If he comes close to you the police will assist you when called. It is protection you feel you need. As do I. Just always be careful and watch your back.Watch for things you would not ordinarily watch for.Most people never take these situations seriously until to late. You are a smart young woman. Good for you. Have a great day.
2006-12-12 02:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with everyone else. It sounds like your former b/f is saying things to control you. Although you hate to disregard the things he said about taking his life - the fact remains - it is your life to live. If I were in your shoes I would probably just make sure that his close friends were aware of the situation - as to keep an eye on him. As far as your move - It sounds like you have already made the right decision. Anyone who is caught up with drugs and cheated on you is far below what you should have. From experience I can tell you that you will actually be doing your ex a favor. We all have to lose something to truly appreciate what we have - and ultimately he will learn that there are consequences for actions.
Take care,
2006-12-12 02:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by bmwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to lose BF#1, he's a loser. Drugs, partying, cheating - sounds like a mix of pregnant girlfriend, no BF around, and maybe a STD to top it all off. Sounds like a good time to call splits-ville from him. Do it over the phone as this guy sounds unstable. Definately continue to date BF#2 and see where it goes. It may be easy to point out to BF#1 that he can go get a piece from another girl and to leave you alone. That way he knows he lost you by cheating and he will probably get lost. He won't kill himself, he's just saying that to keep you.
Good luck with it.
2006-12-12 02:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by TexasLSUTiger 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this person threatens to kill himself then he has himself and God to answer to. If he threatens you, he has the Law to answer to. Don't play around with this guy. I have known "men" to use the suicide thing as a means of control and manipulation over their girlfriends. What you need to do is to find it in your heart to forgive him and then walk away from him forever. Once you turn away from this person do NOT look back. Any man, whether it be a boyfriend or spouse, who invests more time in his friends and holding on to that life as a single without being single is not worth your investment. Obviously he is not ready to grow up and invest in a person who cares and possibly loves him. Advice...let him go now and leave him to the life he was not willing to sacrifice for you. There is no room for selfishness in relationships...believe me. Good luck!
2006-12-12 02:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Goober W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey! get out this guy is bad news. If he's not been the best BF and cheated on you, why are you still doing this?.
Since he is on drugs I think sooner or later he is going to hurt you or himself. As for killing himself (be my guest), its his own life so his choice. He made his choice and you made yours. He's just treathening you as he knows you are such a nice person.
Put your foot down and move on. Start a fresh as you deserved someone better. If he does anything funny, go to his parents or make a police report to protect yourself and your family and friends to support you.
I know its not easy. Good luck
2006-12-12 02:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Rosy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say "I don't know why he want's to stay with me"? When you should be asking yourself why in the h-ell am I even considering staying with this jerk in the first place.This guy is a loser who's using threats in an attempt to contol your emotions. And for what? So he can continue to screw other women, take drugs and royally mess with your head? I say you dump this clown like a hot potato and never look back or doubt your decision. You will be all the better for it. And if the retard kills himself, then that's one less scum bag on the planet. I hope i wasn't to harsh.
2006-12-12 02:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's just threatening that to try and get a control over you. To break his control you have to get rid of him and if he says he kill himself, let him - He wont do it in reality. but he's just saying that so you stay with him. Call his bluff and if you really want to annoy him, ask to watch lol.
Seriously get rid of him and go with the nicer guy - a lot less problems and you wont have him wanting to kill himself - Plus you like him more so go for it
Good Luck
2006-12-12 02:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds rather unstable and immature to me. I think you can do much better! A life with that type of character is no life at all... so my advice is move on.
You are not responsible for his actions. If he gets out of control... get help "911"
Now for you... work on issues of self esteem and acceptance. Expect more out of life and do not surround your self with losers.
You were created by and in the image of a perfect God and he has given you talent and beauty that is uniquely yours. Seek a true relationship with God through his son Jesus and you Will be filled with abundant joy, peace and True love.
2006-12-12 02:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Friend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on! he is saying that he will kill himself over you is a form of control. He does not sound depressed nor suicidal if he hangs out with his friends and parties.
you should just end things with him. Happiness is around the corner
2006-12-12 02:12:27 · answer #10 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give yourself a break from the entire dating scene until you acquire some understanding of what a good man is... the fact that you've been with a cheating, drug using bum for 3 years proves that you haven't a clue.
2006-12-12 02:10:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋