i usually wake up very late n i keep my room like dustbin n i watch TV whole day. this is very usual many people r like that n they r happy. but the problem is i feel very guilty of these things. my parents want me to sleep early n get up early n do all chores at time n im doing just opposite. n im feeling very bad of this but still im not stopping it. my father had a fracture n he is in plaster n mama needs help n i want to, but something stopes me to do it. im not able to explain but im very depressed n cannot tell any one. is there any sites of professional psychiatrists where one can talk to them freely.
2006-12-12 02:00:43 · 6 answers · asked by repunzil 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sorry but depression is not an adequate excuse for abusing family . . . even depressed people can pitch in with chores, and then maybe they would not be so depressed or at least family might be motivated to help with counseling bills.
You are feeling guilt because you know you are behaving like a parasite and not chipping in to carry your share of the work load around your home.
You are also feeling fear because you know that soon, your parents will say you are too old to live at home and after being a long term parasite, you will have NO skills for living on your own. You will have to get room mates because with no work skills, you will only be able to get minimum wage Jobs but No one except trash people will want to share a home with you.
Unfortunately , what is stopping you from helping is that parasites are actually super selfish people and professional people can't really cure that. It is not really known if selfish people can really care about others, but they could at least learn to respect others and not always be taking advantage. Would you like to do all the work to take care of a selfish parasite ? Consider being in their shoes.
But , if you decide you can't show respect then . . .
It is probably best that you just accept that the rest of your life will be spent working at MacDonald's and living with other trashy people, and you should probably move really soon so good people like your parents don't have to keep supporting a parasite.
2006-12-12 02:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your talking about. I have suffered with depression for many years. Before I was ever treated I could not motivate myself to do anything around the house. I grew up with a unhappy household and basically was forced to do almost ALL the cleaning in my house. I developed a hatred of housework. Now I have my own place and still can't motivate myself very often. I have to force myself to do it. I feel like when I have to clean the house that I'm being punished. It's crazy but that's how I feel so I avoid it. I think you should get help with your depression asap. Since I don't know where your from I cannot give you a direct number. You obviously have a computer so try a google search with keywords like depression+help or type the name of where you live+depression+help.
There are a lot of non-profit agencies that can help you like the Mental Health Association. Try looking them up in your area first.
2006-12-12 10:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have depression then you need to get it treated. There is nothing to be ashamed of. I don't know where you live but l imagine you will need medication to help to balance the chemicals in your brain that have become unbalanced. The only self help l can recommend is to write down as best you can your feelings. Try to notice what triggers anger, feelings of helplessness etc. There are often places on chat lines that deal with depression so maybe you could link up there.
If possible you should try and talk to your parents. They are probably unaware of your unhappiness and if you talk to them then you may find a solution to at least some of your problems.
Just by talking you can help yourself to recognise what is wrong in your life. You sound young too and you shouldn't be having to face all this by yourself.
I wish you all the best.
2006-12-12 10:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by pam h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are local mental health agencies in every county that you can goto for help! They go by your income and if you qualify you may not even have to pay for it if your worried about the cost.
You have to decide to make changes in your life and your taking a first step by asking, take baby steps if you have to. Chances are your parents already know that there is something wrong.
There is no shame in asking for help and having a better life. Start looking at how you can make your life better and the positive things in your life. It is easy to look at what is wrong.
When I was going through depression I went into the depression chat room and it help to talk to other people that were going through similar situations. good luck.
2006-12-12 12:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not sound old enough to get help without your parents consent. You gotta be 18. How old are you, how long this been going on? Contact your County Mental Health Agency. They can refer you to free or sliding-scale fee mental health assistance. Feeling bad is how you should feel, if your Mom needs you. Tell her how you are feeling, I am sure she will want you to get help. You're just gonna make her mad, by not helping, and madder for not speaking up. Get a move on, girl. Today would be nice.
2006-12-14 09:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by msmaryanne3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be helpful
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/
2006-12-12 14:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋