im 17, and so we havent even really talked since the break up. I have not been responding to her trying to tell me about how this girl is no good that i started hanging out (it was his ex). Anyways, its been almost 2 weeks, and I was wondering how long should I wait? and how should I try becoming friends with her? I dont want her back I just want to be friends cause she is a cool girl to hangout with at least. She also said when we broke up how she still wanted to be "friends" and see eahcother and hangout, but ive been ignoring her cause everyone told me that would bug the hell out of her and make her jealous or whatever... also they said it would just be awkward and cause arguements with this new boy around. But I am really confused and just want to kinda be friends but dont want to deal with the drama of this new boy so what do you think i should do besides just forgetting about her? thank you very much for your time, it is much appreciated : )
2006-12-12 01:55:52 · 18 answers · asked by brockheimer8883 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on dude,find another gal and don't be bothered or bother the past gal.if you all are meant to be friends it will happen on it's own.
2006-12-12 01:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by looken4answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if u just want to be friends, then answer when she calls and tell her that, but only if she shows signals that she wants to keep contact. If she apologizes about what she did, u cant say, can we be friends? cause that sounds needy. sounds like if what you really want is stay around waiting for a comeback.
I would say thta you better stay away from her. why do you want to be friend of someone who left you for another guy?
If u keep this relationship, you ll end up with her again and se could left you again.
Whatever you do, dont take the initiative. Act as if you dont care whatever happens. It would be better if you move on, theres plenty of pretty and loyal girls around.
2006-12-12 10:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her and ask her if she still wants to be friends. You will need to tell her that by being friends does not mean she has any opinion on who you date and you will respect her choice of bf as well. Just be friends and hang out and have a good time. There is a chance her new bf will be jealous of your time with her being an ex and all and maybe even your gf so you will have to look for that. If they can deal with it, then be friends and have fun.
2006-12-12 10:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you too were friens and that is very important. You'd like to have that back. That is hard when you are trying to move on. New girlfriens and boyfriends get in the way. Let her know you'll be there for her if she ever needs you to. Make your own judgement about your aquaintances, though.
2006-12-12 10:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her go man. There is no point in continuing to talk to her. Women need to understand that there are plenty more fish in the sea for men. If they are not going to play nicely, then they can end up on their own cause we will always find someone else. I should say, the nice guys who care about women will.
Don't talk to her and don't talk to her new man. You don't have to.
Cheers!
2006-12-12 09:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by wyatt_bellis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You very welcome :). In my opinion you should let her go, even as a friend if she's not mature enough to put her feelings aside. If she can though, go to events together, play sports, do art projects, etc. Just anything you'd do with a friends, but be sure to be as solid a person as possible, reassuring her that there are no hard feelings. Good luck
2006-12-12 10:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs friends, old or new. I would think telling her you just don't want to hear about the new guy. If she still wants to be friends she should understand.
Good Luck!!!!!
2006-12-12 10:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by Michele d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to wait longer. Sounds like you still have feelings for her, and it would probably not have the desired outcome if you approached her right now.
Let her current "relationship" run it's course. Then she will probably come to you for friendship.
For now, just smile and say hello to her but get on with your life.
2006-12-12 10:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by luvguns2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think you should tell her what your telling us that you want to be friends but you dont want to deal with her new boy and all the drama it could cause tell her you dont want things to be akward between you guys you want to start over and just be friends
2006-12-12 10:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by ash16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is bad but if your going to keep her as a friend then don't
let your emotion get in the way of that
2006-12-12 10:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Isaiah C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋