I am 17 and a virgin. The thing is I've had four boyfriends and three of them cheated on me. They slept with another girl. The fourth threatened to cheat if I didnt sleep with him. I at first thought that me being a virgin is something to be proud of, but it seems like that is why I keep getting hurt. I dont know what to do. I dont want to do anything with just any guy you know? I want to love them. But it seems like the more I dont the more I get hurt. What should I do?
2006-12-12 01:52:35 · 29 answers · asked by ~*Zaidens Mommy*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do NOT give into their wants and desire of sex. Im not married, and ive had sex but i also feel this is my lifelong spouse, partner, and soul mate. She had sex 1 time before she was will me and she was deeply hurt that she gave it up to a guy she 'thought' she liked/loved. It made her sad because she and I feel its something that you NEED to only share with that ONE special someone. Your giving up part, a big part, of yourself when you give up your virginity to that special someone.
Find someone who respects and sees it as something special like you do. Because it really is. Wait until you are married because if he can wait til then, you know he deserves what you are going to give him
2006-12-12 01:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan Marcel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! Take your time and later on in life when you are not dating stupid kids...you'll meet a man that will love you even more because of you being a virgin and not giving in like everyone else. I got pregnant and had my son when I was 16 yrs old and got married cuz I thought it was the "right" thing to do and now I'm divorced, single mom and only 22 yrs old. So, take my advice...don't do it. Wait for that right person and if these stupid kids are pressuring you, then they don't deserve you. Good things come to those who wait...always remember that. I am proud that you haven't done it...not many 17 yr olds are virgins...keep it up, okay?
2006-12-12 01:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into something that you're going to regret, it's a moment that you will rememebr for the rest of your life. If a guy really cares about you he'll be willing to wait, and I'm of the opinion that why wouldn't you save yourself for the guy who will be with you no matter what, love you for you not for your body or for the sex. Its the reason why a few women get hurt in relationships, it seems that most men out there want is just sex but thats not always the case. Love should be present when you decide to give yourself up, And IT IS SOMETHING TO BE PROUD OF. It sets you apart from a lot of women who decided just to do it, I know that it sucks to get hurt but that will happen no matter what, it's apart of life. Just think what would hurt more them leaving you because you wouldn't have sex with them or them leaving you having taken your virgintiy which is something you can't get back.
2006-12-12 02:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lexy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am also 17 and a virgin. Like u I am proud of it. Arent u glad u didnt give it up 2 those losers? If u werent worth waiting for to them then they prolly just veiwed u as a challenge to get in ur pants.Wait for a man that loves u enough to respect ur decision of being a virgin.
2006-12-12 01:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by aj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to give it away, the don't. If they threaten to leave if they don't get it, then let them leave - they're not worth it
So I'm guessing you're waiting for the guy that you truly love to loose it to eh? There is totally nothing wrong with that. If a guy finds you're easy he wont be interested in a real relationship, just a bit of fun. depends what you want really.
Don't be pressured into giving up your virginity by some stupid guy. It's yours afterall and it's your right to give it to whoever you want, not their right.
If he does try anything, either bite him down there if you're in the position to, or kick him down there, either will work and he'll definitely get the message lol
2006-12-12 02:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its great. I'm not a religious or anything but I'm 18 (a virgin) and had a 24 year old b/f for 9months he was threating close to the same thing and if you keep it I promise you will feel so much better with yourself and have this impowered feeling. If you think about it, your virginity is one of the few things in life you have control over. Keep the control as long as you want. It is YOUR CHOICE!!
2006-12-12 02:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal Blue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You be proud of your virginity. You, as a young lady have to protect yourself. Any guy that would threaten to cheat on you just because you won't give it up is not worthy of you. Save yourself for the man you may marry some day.
2006-12-12 01:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing what you're doing. Obviously you found the wrong guys. Eventually you will find someone that you can trust enough and it will happen. Don't just sleep with some jerk because he says you have to. You're 17, there's time for that. The way you're talking, it seems to me if you sleep with the wrong guy, you'll regret it so stick with the plan. Good luck
2006-12-12 01:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to the idiots. They are just a horny bunch of losers who trying to pull a fast one on you. What makes you think they wont cheat on you even if you have sex with them.
A man who truly loves a woman will never force her to do anything that she is not ready or comfortable with. Its your body so only you will know when you are ready to have sex / made love.
Yes I agree you should wait until the right person comes along and when you are in love with him as much as he is with you, you will be so proud of yourself that you have save your most important treasure for him.
Have faith and love yourself. Dont live up to anyone expectations.
Take care.
2006-12-12 02:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Rosy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the only thing they want from you is sex, and they are not interested in having a mature relationship, then they are not worth it.
A real man will date you, respect you, be happy even if there is no sex involved. Since your only 17, most boys you date now will be immature and horny.
I suggest you remain a virgin untill you meet someone who is willing to love you, and make love to you.
Losing your virginity is not a game, or a "thing to be gotten rid of". It is special, and only a special man should have it; not someone who just wants to ***** you.
2006-12-12 01:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋