i have known this first guy for 3 years and we have been off and on the whole time but then there is another guy i meet 1 year ago and he tells me he loves me and he wants to be with me for real this time. what do i do? HELP!!!!!!
2006-12-12 01:42:14 · 19 answers · asked by rachel loves tiffany! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy for 3 years off and on, seems like he is not sure what he wants. Second, 1 year ago guy sounds like there would be more of potential. Just make sure whatever you do, it is what you really want.
2006-12-12 01:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your instinct, and you can always weigh the pros and cons of each. what are the things you like about the 3 year guy and the things you like about the 1 year guy, then do the things you don't like about each of them.
what do you mean by he loves me for real this time? did he not love you before? ask yourself this, why didnt he love you the last time? Also the 3 yr guy, you've been off and on, are you ready to break the cycle? if you answer yes then maybe you are ready to move on. What ever you decide it won't be easy. In the long run you have to think about who is going to make you the happiest, and that will be there for you thick and thin. good luck!
2006-12-12 09:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to think whos the one you want to be with most, then realize that the choice you make will be somewhat permanate. If you like both and your in a flip a coin situation, try making a pro's and con's list. a list of all the bads and goods that they both have. so logically speaking, which ill intervene and say that love isnt logical, the one that has a bigger pro's list would proly be a good idea...
best wishes..
Goodluck...
2006-12-12 09:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by latinkid7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear,
in my opinion you should take break from both of them& do any activity for min 3days max 7 days without thinking of them. then ask ur self what really you want a boyfriend each yaer or a real solemeet?
do not allow them to play with your feeling and search for serious relationship which give u the love , respection & secure .
2006-12-12 09:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if you've never been with 2 guys at a time I see a perfect opportunity for you. Go for it, you'll love it. At least I do.
2006-12-12 09:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the first guy because you have known him for three years and there must be something that is keeping you together dispite the off and on situations
2006-12-12 09:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by VANCE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you have to take both i mean look at the reasons why you broke up so many times with the other guy did he cheat on you did you get him mad stuff like that and then youlle know what to do from there
2006-12-12 09:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by liquidsnake_700 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is a wrong term. You are not in love you are going thru an infatuation.
Who do you want to be with ... i guess not with either of them. Look for some one else.
2006-12-12 09:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Hermit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not in love with them both. You fancy them both and like them telling you they love you but when you love someone you're willing to give yourself completely. It's impossible to do that when you have to share it around. Only you can say who you like most or if you don't want to settle, date them both
2006-12-12 09:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date them both. If you're not sure then choose neither and date both. It doesn't sound like you have a very good history with either of them.
2006-12-12 09:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋