Okay this is my issue, I have a 1 yr old child, possibly fathered by a married man.?

Question

He never told me he was married until I found out I was pregnant, he has not told his wife but he provide financial support for the child. I'm tired of my child being in the dark and I want him to come clean with his family. Not because I want to be with him, but because my child still deserves a father. What should I do?

Okay, let me say this, I know how it sounds like I'm a hoe or a homewrecker but this guy and I are in the military and were in Europe. His family wasn't there. It was not a one night stand this was a on going relationship. He told me he was divorced. As far as the "possibility" I with the other person when the relationship ended and the condom broke. I have moved on and I don't want this liar in my life, I work everyday and don't need he for his money. I am engaged and will be getting married soon, but I want my child to know the truth and not be lied too. It's not her fault.

Answer 1

get the cheater to sign off his parental rights. and have your husband start adoption procedures.

i dont know that blackmail would be the best approach, (sign or ill go to your wife?) though it would be an option just the same.?

I'm not sure that my first step wouldn't be just that. but not knowing ms cheater, it has the potential of backfiring.

worst case scenario... they decide they want custody of the child.

be careful and good luck

Answer 2

Forget it.
This man didn't leace his wife for you regardless of you carrying his child or not.
Forget him.
Keep getting your money, even if you have to take him to court.
Sounds like if he left her for you - hed leave you for someone else.

Sounds like Joey Butafuco and Amy Fisher.
Get away. You sound psycho and desperate.
There are other men out there - plenty of them.

Wonder how his wife would feel? That is awful. Sometimes things are better left unknown.
But that is your call. Think of all the consequences. What if they took away your child? And had custody? Weigh everything out. If you meet another man- how are you going to explain the child's father.
Id say jsut drop him all together and raise your child on your own. Find a good faithful supporting man and a daddy for your child.
Dont be so selfish and money hungry for yourself.
Your child needs a dad too. Even if its not the real one.

Answer 3

I really feel sorry for his family and his innocent wife. I think she should know what a puke her husband is before he brings her home more than a child from a one nighter. First though I think you should find out if it's really his, b4 u go wrecking someones life, especially if liquor was involved and he has other children, u may be an exception and he may never cheat again, especially after what happened with you.what a scare and ur poor baby deserves to know who his real father is, not who u want it to be cuz u think that u can rake him over the coals by bribing him. and stay away from married men cuz there's a name for girls like u and they don't make this screwed up world a better place to be for anyone especially when there's children involved. My advice would be grow up, clean up and be a good example.

Answer 4

You did say possibly fathered, right. Well you need to establish paternity first either through the court or on your own. You can call your local DHR or DHS office and file a child support claim. They will do paternity for free and they will file your claim for free. But I don't think it will be a good idea to say anything outside of that. That's his family and his responsibility to tell them. As long as the child is taken care of, that should be your main concern. Remember what's done in the dark ALWAYS comes out to the light. But you calling his wife is not your place. Good luck.

Answer 5

Call and tell his wife... The hell with what he thinks.. This child deserves a normal life.. and if his father isn't willing to give it to him after his wife finds out, then the child wasn't going to have that life anyway. This guy sounds like a real loser.. Take him for child support through the courts.. Good Luck Dear!!

Answer 6

I've seen situations like yours MANY times.Just remember hun,you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do.

I'm not really sure if it matters if he "comes clean with his family",only that he does what he is suppose to do as the father of HIS child.

Answer 7

You will have to use threats. In order for your child to have a father figure you need to threaten to tell his wife. Or you can find a man who will actually love you and not just use you for sex, then leave you when you get pregnant. But you can still get child support from him. Threats aren't right, but they really work~! Good Luck, and I hope your child gets what he/she deserve in this.

Answer 8

grow up and take responsibility for your actions.
You probably saw the signs he was married but chose to ignore them. why should you ruin his life or the life of his wife or other children cause you both were selfish.
if he will sign papers and promise to support the child - count your blessings. as time goes on - he will probably take more part in his life.

Answer 9

You should tell him straight up that he needs to tell the truth. If he has another family he needs to tell them, and he needs to support his child from you. It's called being a man, and taking responsibility.

Answer 10

If you are certain that he is the father you need to take him to court for court ordered child support. Just bcause he is ginving it freely now doenst mean that he will continue to in the future. Then take it froom their.